Hang in there... your post stroke a chord in me... did you say partly why you are ending things is because "he won't go there" physically and be 'all the way' with you? Forgive me if I understood you wrong but I have been struggling for a long time wondering if I am wrong about feeling frustrated about a similar situation... I also want to end things and a big part of it is b/c I wonder: why in the world doesn't he request (or agree) to go further physically? Many APs do from what I read on this board. Why keeping me at a distance in that aspect when physical intimacy: 1. is so important to me (I'm single, I'm only w/him!! so being w/him is basically committing to no IC); and 2. 'should' be desirable to him??
I think you are avoiding EAS because there you will need to be accountable and strive towards maintaining NC, but I sense your NC is just a temporary stance...for now.
You were thrilled to be celebrating your 19th wedding anniversary this past July.
I like you was on the EAS board. I remember your posts. I, like you have been back here because I got sucked back in. When you said "making out in a closet" I kind of laughed. Because my AP and I used to try and find places at work where we could just touch each other. I'm not sure I'm getting the 17 day thing. Is he gone from work? Or are you two just on a break? I no longer work with mine but see him at night at events. I am going to give up these events in order to get him outta my system once and for all. When I see him it's too much for me..he stares..does all that nonsense to try and keep me hooked.
Look..it's a no-win situation for us. It just is. A constant state of torment we both do not need. Life is short..let's find some happiness. Let's start off the NEW YEAR without these emotional vampires. Let's head on back to the EAS board...come on!!
I feel your pain..I'm right here with you..but I'm in NC and hope to remain there forever!!
I know that NC is the only way I'll get over him. And if you work with him still..I feel for you..cuz that would be so difficult. But you have the power to change this.
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Hi gal,
Hang in there... your post stroke a chord in me... did you say partly why you are ending things is because "he won't go there" physically and be 'all the way' with you? Forgive me if I understood you wrong but I have been struggling for a long time wondering if I am wrong about feeling frustrated about a similar situation... I also want to end things and a big part of it is b/c I wonder: why in the world doesn't he request (or agree) to go further physically? Many APs do from what I read on this board. Why keeping me at a distance in that aspect when physical intimacy: 1. is so important to me (I'm single, I'm only w/him!! so being w/him is basically committing to no IC); and 2. 'should' be desirable to him??
I keep thinking about these issues. Why do we put
I don't know if this will help you.
((((gal))))
What are you doing to yourself, girlfriend?
{{{Clarity}}} I knew you would find me and give me a talking to!!
Yeh, you would think....
I think you are avoiding EAS because there you will need to be accountable and strive towards maintaining NC, but I sense your NC is just a temporary stance...for now.
You were thrilled to be celebrating your 19th wedding anniversary this past July.
Gal,
nah...this isn't as much about his ego stroke as it is yours. That YOU
Gal..
I like you was on the EAS board. I remember your posts. I, like you have been back here because I got sucked back in. When you said "making out in a closet" I kind of laughed. Because my AP and I used to try and find places at work where we could just touch each other. I'm not sure I'm getting the 17 day thing. Is he gone from work? Or are you two just on a break? I no longer work with mine but see him at night at events. I am going to give up these events in order to get him outta my system once and for all. When I see him it's too much for me..he stares..does all that nonsense to try and keep me hooked.
Look..it's a no-win situation for us. It just is. A constant state of torment we both do not need. Life is short..let's find some happiness. Let's start off the NEW YEAR without these emotional vampires. Let's head on back to the EAS board...come on!!
I feel your pain..I'm right here with you..but I'm in NC and hope to remain there forever!!
I know that NC is the only way I'll get over him. And if you work with him still..I feel for you..cuz that would be so difficult. But you have the power to change this.
Peace & Love
Logan
Hi Logan - yes, we're both off work until the beginning of Jan - so it is an enforced NC.
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