just a qiuck question need some help!!

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Registered: 05-23-2008
just a qiuck question need some help!!
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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 1:11pm

hi there, my AP broke up with me but still says he wants us to be very very close.when i spoke to him he told me that he thinks that im trying to be more with him when he wont give that now!! yet then he tells me he's sorry he hasnt called but its all about timing so we can talk when his W isnt there.


Could he have really let me go even if he still is hiding the fact that he is still talking to me even if we're not having sex right now???


plus if you stop having sex with your AP does that really mean your A stops if you're still in close contact??


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Registered: 09-29-2004
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 3:41pm
Hi, it sounds like you and me are going through the same thing right now.
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Registered: 05-23-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 4:14pm

well two and a half years then it all got a bit hard im not sure why we broke up really. i found it really hard back then to seperate the two worlds like it's easy to drop everything and start a new life with me or something which i know is now is harder than it sounds. at the same time a month or so ago got married to someone he was with for 4 years house, child, business together. every so often he wants us to be more and he always asks if i can be really discreet. Or when we directly talk about the A he denys it is even happening but when we are actually together doing things it's different he wants to spend the night when she's stays away. i try and keep the conversation clean but he always changes it. ill read your post cos no doubt we are in the same boat. i think he would like to be faithful to her but he has tried and it hasnt worked. he has always had enough but i think maybe marrige will make a difference, it seems that when it comes to me he doesnt want to let go.


to be honest if he wanted to end it and have NC i'd be hurt but i would rather someone in my life who wants to be there. he always talks about right now. except when i had an affair i told my AP that nothing more would happen with us than an A and when i broke it off (we worked otogether) and I was only proffesional, i told him i was never going to break up with my SO cos that was my intention even though we did the next year. he just says nothing is happening right now. when we get into arguments he does say he never wants me to think it will happen and we must go NC, but when hes calmed down he wants it

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 4:54pm

Wow 2 1/2 years is a long time.