Just realized...!!!
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Just realized...!!!
| Thu, 10-14-2010 - 1:46am |
If he's cheating on his W with me then he could also be cheating on me, right? Ahhh I know it doesn't take an einstein to figure that one out but I'm sitting here wondering why he hasn't looked at the pictures I sent him....while he's away on business....he claimed to be alone but he hasn't checked the pictures....WHO IS HE WITH?!!
I hate myself for turning into this. I'm usually a very confident, happy woman and now I'm having this affair and turned upside down!! I thought I was just going to have a PA with this guy and now I'm obsessing...something I haven't done since high school.

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OK, first of all, like we say around here...take a deep breath. Now, to be perfectly honest with you, yes , he could be cheating on you. Thats just plain and simple. OR, he could be so busy that he hasnt had a chance to check his email. But if you have doubts or concerns about his being involved with someone
Hi Devor,
My AP is single so you can just imagine the squirrels that run through my mind when I'm not with him. Yes if he's cheating with me and I'm married then I think he can pretty much cross many other lines. Theres always that possibility but like Tangled said AP and I came to an understanding of letting the other know if there were to be someone else. I think you should have a face to face chat with him and tell him your concerns. You are right in your feelings and he won't know its bothering you unless you tell him. Be as honest as you can and hopefully you will get what ever answers your looking for.
Hope everything turns out well & that you get the peace of mind your looking for.
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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I find the replies quite interesting. How do you believe your APs will be honest with you when you are not being honest with your H ? If your H found out, you are probably going to deny the A , dont you think your AP will deny his R with another woman as well? Its sad that the fog can be so thick in an A !
I don't know, H.I.S.
You've got a lot of choices. I
I have wondered the same about my AP. he so easily lies to his W on a daily basis, and with such ease.
with my AP, it is a sense that I get.. she is open with me when she doesn't need to be, and she's a very private person to begin with but cares enough to be open..
it's an A.. she could be seeing someone else, but the sense that I have is that she's not, it's hard to explain.. it has to do with the way I sense that she respects me as an individual and wouldn't wish to hurt me that way.. she'd tease me about having dinner with a male friend etc.. but, for us, the A isn't about sleeping with someone else or lying to our Ss, but sharing a unique friendship.. it's the whole package we seeked and were lucky to find and build..would she be able to repeat that elsewhere?.. I am sure she could I don' t think but she would t find it necessary..
Trust, especially in an A, is such a complicated subject. I've decided to eliminate that complication by having total faith in my AP.. because any other alternative would take me somewhere crazy, and if I am capable of entertaining such thoughts, why bother having an A w/ someone under such conditions..
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ahh, Nevereasy, your response made me smile.
I would really like to know more about Heissick's background.
Devora---I think jealousy is a natural reaction, no matter what the situation.
He only checked the first set of pix i sent...and didn't comment. HE is the one who asked me to send a bunch to "hold him over until we meet next". So I sent him a couple of more which he didn't check. It's been a couple of days! I mean these pictures are amazing...i wish i looked like that all the time...it was perfect lighting, perfect angles the whole 9 yards and NOTHING! He didn't even care to comment...and I don't think he even checked them.
He HAS been acting strange. One second he tells me he wants to get another phone to talk to me....then never talks about that again. Also he told me he couldn't see me in October but contacted me right away and wanted to see me the first week of october except instead of our usual nights he wants to meet me for lunch? What is going on with him?! Maybe W is suspicious? Guilt? Dunno. How do I approach this? How do I act? And for God's sake how do you people do this for very long? I started a few months ago and he's already driving me crazy!
He gives me very little to go on emotionally but I still feel like I'm falling in love
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