Just a teaser?
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Just a teaser?
| Tue, 03-16-2004 - 9:25pm |
Anyone who has read my "I am a fool" posts knows most of the story... my MM and I are still emailing alot; he showed up at where I was tonight (because I told him I would be there). He knew a ton of people so we had to really keep it light. I did walk over to his car and we chatted for a bit. Here's my question: In public where there are people, he seems to take chances (like to tell me he wants to squeeze/grab me). However, the few oppty's we have where a grab or squeeze could be gotten away with- he does not attempt anything. Is he all tease? talk?

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I think that's what your MM is doing. He feels safe talking, but physically, he's scared to death. If he is like me then, obviously, he'll come around. But it will be slow. It will get to the point where his curiosity will get the best of him. Now keep in mind that OM and I didn't become physically intimate for nearly two years after this started. Two years, this single attractive man waited for me. If you aren't willing to be patient with him, then he's probably not someone you want to have an A with. But if you want to enjoy the banter and the playfullness, I know if he's a red blooded man, he'll come around, it will just take a while.
I sure he wants you so bad vles, that he doesn't know what to do with himself. But he's dealing with guilt, and fear of maybe getting caught. You may feel that he's just teasing you, but I can almost assure you that he doesn't mean to. He's just getting cold feet.
As you said, "I WANT this man!" and sometimes it makes me absolutely crazy. Just his hand on my shoulder sends shivers down my spine. I hope we make it to FWB, but in the meantime, we just keep riding the roller coaster.
I have found that if the alternative is not to be involved with him at all, I'll keep things the way they are.
If you come up with tactics to "take your time" - let me know and I'll do the same!! Keep your chin up girl!
But like I said, eventually curiosity took over. I mean I couldn't do anything w/o thinking of OM or what we talked about. The faster things move, the faster the cold feet will disappear. I remember one post where you went to lunch and he put his arm around you. Girl, that is just the beginning. Every time you meet alone he will get bolder. Because it sounds as if the air between you two is just electric. But I can tell that it will be one step at a time.
For his sake, don't rush him. The next time you meet, he may want to sit in your car with you and hold hands and talk. And once he realizes, "hey, I didn't get caught doing that, I bet I could have kissed her..." It'll just gradually be more and more.
OM and I went to lunch a lot, and well, we still do. And the more time we were alone together and my nerves started calming down, the more things progressed. Now we're animals...LOL It'll happen, I just want to encourage you to again plan another lunch with him...or something to spend time with him alone, and I think you'll see what I mean.
Again, did I blow this?
Anyhow- he mentioned yesterday in an email that he may take a vacation day with me. We'll see if that happens. Maybe things are still the same and I am the one who is thinking too much. I saw him last nite at hockey arena, will see him again tonight at same place (although my H and kids will be there so will his kids). Will also see him tomorrow night at our kids hockey game and then again all spring for that league. But come mid- May; the ONLY way our paths will cross is if we plan something secretive. I hope, I hope, I hope....
You're the best- love ya!
BTW, I have the same problem. I think WAY too much. Men just aren't that way. Just keep building his ego, and he'll come around. Have fun flirting tonight, and keep updating!! ;)
Some of us do! I, for one, overthink everything at times. :) But I agree, the best way to move forward with this man is to get him past his fears. That is, of course, assuming he wants to get past them. It sounds like he does. Good luck.
You also say he wants to overcome his fears? How can you tell that?
Help!
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