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Just venting
| Tue, 11-11-2003 - 9:43am |
Yesterday saw MM after my asking him to come to see me. He was on vacation last week and was supposed to see me but never could (wife at home, pick up daughter, etc.) and that was ok with me. We hardly spoke during that time either or even text. Then when we got back to work all of the sudden lovey dovey on the texting. He text "I love you" like three times. Then while leaving at the parking lot he just gave me a pout face like he was sad that we were leaving (see we used to work together in the same area then I was moved so we only see each other now at the beginning of work and at the end). The next day is when I finally ask when we were going to get together again and he said Monday would be good (only day wife is at work and my H is at work) I said ok. So he comes over yesterday and is a little distant I am the one that hugs him while we were sitting on the couch watching a movie. Then I start to tickle him to get him moving and then he kissed me finally and it was like we had not seen each other in years we were attacking each other! Well you could imagine what happened and it was wonderful he was very loving. Then after he was distant again. He had to go get his daughter so he sat for maybe 5 minutes after and I told him that he was strange. I told him that I did not understand his outburst of emotions and then him being distant. I asked him if when he texts me "I love you" he really means it, and he said "yes" and he said "I assume you know already" and I said "no" and he said that he is very weird and that he has always been that way and that he was worse before. That he gets into his moods and that he gets depressed but that it has nothing to do with how he feels. I don't know I see other people posting here that they want to hear I love you, but I have heard it and am having a hard time seeing it. If he really loved me wouldnt he want to see me more, other than work? Wouldnt he find a way? Or is he just a scaredy cat?

I don't know...from visiting this board and getting to know some of the ladies, I've learned that 'I love you' doesn't seeem to change a lot of things in many As. Learning that was such a big shocker to me! Although now that I have thought about it more, I guess it makes sense. I think we are all so used to the progress of 'normal' relationships and what saying 'I love you' means in those situations. In 'normal' relationships it's a big step and usually brings about a lot of changes. In most As it's different. I guess sometimes it just can't mean what we want it to (or it can't bring about the changes that we wish we could have). Just my opinion! Glad you got to see him!
Charlotte