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Just wanted to say Hi
| Fri, 08-22-2003 - 7:44pm |
Hi everyone, I haven't been here for a while and I thought I would just pop in and say Hi and give a quick update. I have only seen mm for a few minutes twice in the last few weeks and I miss him. Yesterday I saw him and he told me he was going to Baltimore with his W for the weekend so I guess they are working things out. Didn't have much chance to talk to him. I have realized that he and I are probably never going to hook up, he is never going to get his D no matter how many times he leaves he goes back, and I am the same way. I don't understand the hold our respective spouses have over us. I know that mm and I would be great together, but it just isn't meant to be, and sometimes I am really sorry that I didn't sleep with him because at least I would have that memory and other times I am truly glad I didn't because I can just imagine how much more this would hurt if I had. Right now I miss my best friend and that does hurt ALOT! Alot more than I thought it would.
Well not much news here, I'll stop back now and then to see how you all are doing.
hugs,
itty

I'm sorry you are missing your
bestfriend. I question why I stay
with my H too... OM and I haven't
seen each other in 3 weeks because
of what had happened, but I think
we're working things out slowly.
Not too sure where I'm headed...
Hope your good overall and not
thinking to much of your MM! ~passion
It's good to read an update from you, as always. Though, I'm sorry you are missing your good friend.
Itty, you wrote, "I don't understand the hold our respective spouses have over us." - our spouses or signifigant others or even our affair partners do NOT have a hold over us! You are where you are, and he is where he is, because of choices YOU each made. Remember that if you feel you didn't make a good decision, you can always make another decision. Be sure to make that decision based on YOU, not someone else's actions. It's your life, Itty, and you have the control to make decisions based on your happiness.
Instead of picturing certain circumstances in your mind that would bring you happiness (like how it would have been with you and your friend, or like how happy you would be if things work out with you and H), simply picture yourself happy. Maybe you've said it yourself before, Itty - it's all a mindset - believe yourself to be happy, and you are.
I'm sorry you are hurting, Itty. Of course I understand, because I feel hurt in my relationship with MM sometimes - it's just easier to make suggestions to someone else than to put it into practice myself.
Please don't allow yourself to be hurt for too long - you deserve happiness.
Hugs,
Meow
While it looks like you are right, that things will never align for you and MM... how are things going with H? Are you both still making the effort?
I am as insane as always, here... it is good to hear from you!
-lily
Well thanx again my friends,
Big Hugs,
itty
I missed your posted yesterday... I was nice to see you name pop up there... and I'm glad to hear that things are going well for you... even though you are finding it tough at times... you will get there...
and I just thought I would share this quote with you...
"You never stop loving someone you truly loved, you just learn how to live without them"
I truly believe it's how we all manage to get through the tough times
I hope that you will keep an eye on us all and pop back in to update when you can.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My