just wondering your opinion

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Registered: 10-14-2009
just wondering your opinion
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Sun, 10-25-2009 - 1:23pm

Just curious for the married women out there. If you have a decent M but a horrible sex life. Whats your opinion of every now and then, maybe once or twice a year, just having sex with someone. Just to have that amazing feeling of being beautiful and sexy and hot hot hot! Not at all like an A. Not emotional, not ongoing, just sex with someone who you know and understands what it is.

I mean for men, I suppose they can pay for it, right?

I'm not advocating any of this...just wondering what the opinion is of those on this board.

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Registered: 12-07-2008
Sun, 10-25-2009 - 1:32pm
i have no oppositions to this at all, as long as you are honest with the OM.
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Registered: 08-13-2009
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 11:47am
That's how my first A started, but got too serious. Now basically starting all over again trying to do the same thing - but can already feel myself getting too attached. I don't think I'm the type built for this! But if you can do, then I say do it. Like pp, DH and I have talked before, and he's always told me, if I wasn't happy with our sex-life then he'd understand if I went somewhere else - but he doesn't see a problem with it right now. He thinks he is providing - and I don't have the heart to tell him he's not. He tries, I'm just not attracted to him the way I used to be, and there is no passion, and as much as he tries, I can't feel any of what I need, or what I have been able to find.
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Registered: 02-23-2009
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 11:54am

I get what you're saying. My H and I have a decent marriage, but the sex isn't great. I mean, he's a willing participant and he cares about whether I'm enjoying myself, but sometimes he can't perform or sometimes he just kinda does a wham bam thank you maam kinda thing and I need something more.


The problem is, when you find it, you'll find you want more and more and more of that and then feelings could get involved or at least it would become more than a twice a year thing. It can get really painful, really fast. I sometimes wish I had no feelings of guilt or remorse or love for another man