Kind of a poll, a WWYD?

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Kind of a poll, a WWYD?
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 7:52am
A post on here about MM getting OW pregnant made me think... I'd just like some thoughts on an issue the same, but the roles different...

What if a MW who is having an A with a OM or MM gets pregnant? What would you do? Do you tell your H? Do you tell OM? Do you raise the baby as your H's baby? Just all those situations apply. What would you do?

Just wondering if anyone has ever been in that situation and what did you do? Or if you've never been in that situation, what do you think you'd do?

I'm interested in hearing replies... Thanks,

~passion

*Forgot to add, this is just a poll... Not that I'm in this situation...*


Edited 7/11/2003 7:53:11 AM ET by ipassionfire

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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 1:22pm
Just bumping...still thiking on what I would do...anyone out there have any ideas? Red
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 1:45pm
Passion,

I really don't know what I would do. I am M and there is a MM too. But our relationship is different. I don't have children now, and I don't think that I want any. I think that the decision would devastate me, but I don't think that I could go through with having my MM's child just because I already feel so strongly about not having children. (I'm not the maternal type and don't think that I would be very good at it.)

H&H

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 1:53pm
Passion,

I am not sure what I would do...I suppose I would have to have a heart to heart real talk with OM and see where he stood on it...but I also know that ppl can say things all day long but actually being there to do them is totally different. I would have to talk to my H about it too....depending on what they both said and how well I knew each of them I would go from there...if I knew 100% that it was not my H's I would have to come clean and tell the truth....it would hurt and take a long time to get over, if ever at all, but in the end it would be worth it. At least for my child. I have a friend that on a break from his W had a semi-R with a woman and she ended up pregnant....he still sees the child and is with his W...but I believe he thinks W resents the child...I don't think he cares though. But that is another story!! LOL

I am not sure if this helped...Red

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Registered: 06-20-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 3:40pm
OMG! Don't know what I would do!! I have thought about it. I think I would come clean to MM about the pregnancy, but not H. I would have to go from there, depending on the response MM gives me. Not real sure what I would do, except panic!!
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 4:00pm
H&H, Thank you for your honest response. :) ~passion
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 4:02pm
Hey Red, Thank you for you honesty:)

How would you tell your H though?

~passion
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 4:04pm
Thank you Adara:) Your response is very truthful! Panicking is what anyone would do! :)

~passion

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 7:50pm
ipassionfire: I have never been in that situation and probably never will be. My MM is "fixed" :) and my H and I don't have an intimate relationship anymore, so I would know that it was OMs. In the case where I wouldn't know- If I were unsure of the father, I would probably have a DNA test to be sure b/f I discussed with H. If it was Hs, I would remain silent. If it was OM, I would probably tell OM, but not H.

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RH

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 8:19pm
At the risk of getting flamed, I'll tell you what I'd do... I'd have the pregnancy terminated. I would not want H's child knowing our relationship was so flawed that I was straying. I would not want OM's child, knowing our relationship was also unconventional.

Sorry to those right to lifers, but I'm pro choice. That'd be my choice.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 9:06pm
lm single lady here and l'm 40 but if l got pregant by mm for me l would have baby love had my mm child l do know how much my mm loves kids. even l do know my mm much older then me he kind old be father at his age.my mm is gransfather now he has grandaughter. but girls this is just me ok. kimmy
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