((((Allismom)))) - You certainly sound as though you are holding together well, but I wanted to send you some hugs! Our gut instincts are usually pretty good when it comes to detecting changes, and good for you trusting yours and deleting his number and going NC. The least he could do is be honest and upfront with you and tell you where you stand. That's not too much to ask for is it!!! Are you going to have to see him still? He is your daughter's private coach right?
Here's wishing you tons of strength for the coming days...hang in there and come here and vent away if you need to!
First of all, I want you to stop thinking he's "looking" to be with someone different than you are. That's not what this is about, I guarantee it. I think you hit on it yourself - he attracts a lot of attention and women hit on him. He just got free for the first time in many years. He just wants to play the field! It has nothing to do with who you are, what you're like, or anything to do with you! He just wants to date around. Someday, when he looks back, he could think of you as the one who got away. He'll get tired of dating around and want to settle down again, and he'll realize you were the one he should have done that with, but it will be too late. This whole thing is just bad timing. I can understand his wanting to date now, but he'll get tired of it. If you had met him a couple of years from now, it probably would have been better timing-wise.
I know that doesn't really help now, or help ease your pain, but don't think that you weren't "good enough" or what he wanted. It's purely bad timing. Trust me on that! (((Hugs))) for what you're going through sweetie...
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
The least he could do is be honest and upfront with you and tell you where you stand. That's not too much to ask for is it!!!
Are you going to have to see him still? He is your daughter's private coach right?
Here's wishing you tons of strength for the coming days...hang in there and come here and vent away if you need to!
Thanks Loulou. I'm holding together well for the moment, but I"m not sure how long that will last.
I am sorry you are facing this situation.
I agree with nevereasy; if there is another woman/women, it's no reflection on you, but on him.
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HI Never thanks for the kind words.
Hi Another,
Aw, that really sucks that this all happened so close to your anniversary (because that's what it is).
I'm so sorry you're going through this allismom!
First of all, I want you to stop thinking he's "looking" to be with someone different than you are. That's not what this is about, I guarantee it. I think you hit on it yourself - he attracts a lot of attention and women hit on him. He just got free for the first time in many years. He just wants to play the field! It has nothing to do with who you are, what you're like, or anything to do with you! He just wants to date around. Someday, when he looks back, he could think of you as the one who got away. He'll get tired of dating around and want to settle down again, and he'll realize you were the one he should have done that with, but it will be too late. This whole thing is just bad timing. I can understand his wanting to date now, but he'll get tired of it. If you had met him a couple of years from now, it probably would have been better timing-wise.
I know that doesn't really help now, or help ease your pain, but don't think that you weren't "good enough" or what he wanted. It's purely bad timing. Trust me on that! (((Hugs))) for what you're going through sweetie...
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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