l know should ignore but angry

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Registered: 04-15-2003
l know should ignore but angry
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 9:10pm
what happen between me and friend their was something between us he done this in past with me he gets really guilty about me and feelings for me.he acts like this before so l ignore awhile thne comes back to me. but do want to fine some one single and my age and background.been posting here over 2 years most girls have been great but really hurts me when someone comes here and psot not very nice. l have real feelings and hurting rigth now my x-sg abuse me and he hit me.no one here knows what has happen between me and my special friend except us.very strong lady been through so much in my life like having cancer 9 years ago.all girilfriends hugs to you all. kimmy
kimmy
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 11-20-2003 - 9:20pm

*hugs* Kimmy... you know you have the support of many people here... including me... but I think I speak for a lot of people when I say... we all just want you to be able to put the past behind you and move on... let go of them all and get on with your life.

Sweet
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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 12:10am
Kim what I said was not to make you angry but to maybe help you open your eyes so you could move on. I never said your "old" MM did not care/love you in his own way. But he no longer does. You need to face this. If you asked your mother about this (of coarse changing his name for protection, since he is a "dear" friend of theirs)I am sure she would agree. Time to leave this and move on. Now your SG, well that is crazy and you should have reported that jerk to the police. Ignore him and stay away. I think maybe you should have someone professional to speak to about him. He is wrong and should be punished. Sorry about the cancer too, but we all have some sort of problems in life that we must deal with. You survived and that is wonderful, time to learn and grow from your experiences. Maybe someone could benifit from your experiences. But my intensions were not ment to be mean, just honest. Like I said we all have gone through things in our lives. So learn and move on and some seem to stay and linger, but that is your choice.

Shy

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 1:59am
Kimmy--I have to say I completely agree with Shy, I do not believe her intentions were mean in the least. NOT AT ALL. I think it is rather like a therapist pointing something out. Maybe you can't see it, maybe you don't want to hear it, but it may be what you need to move on. Just because someone presents a different point of view, does not mean they hate you, are mean, out to get you or anything else. You have no reason to be angry, if you feel something magical happened between the two of you, then it did. Just stop trying to convince the rest of us. You can ignore the posts that don't say exactly what you want to hear, that just keeps you in denial. You must move on, you have wasted way too much of your life on this man. Look back at your posts, you have been going on and on and on about this same man for over 2 years now...and it is no more of an affair now than it was then. It does get tiring to read the same thing over and over for the rest of us. You are not doing yourself any favors, nor is anyone else here, who tries to say maybe he feels guilty about these feelings, etc. The feelings are NOT there for him and thinking that way makes you hang on and give you false hope. If you two are somehow meant to be together, you will be...but you must move on as if it is not going to happen. Think of it this way....move on, open your heart...not all guys are like these two. When you care about people you always take a chance you could get hurt, that is life! Life means taking risks, getting hurt, loving, laughing and crying. You need to take charge of your own happiness...you do NOT need a man to complete you, but, you could be missing out on a very special man if you don't open yourself up to the possibilities. Think about it and have a good time on your vacation.

Blessings to you..... LivinLovin
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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 7:46am
Thanks livinlovin, I am glad someone agrees with me and realizes that I was not intenteding my words to be mean in any way. Thanks for the back up.

Shy

PS: Now if we could only get Kim to open her eyes.