Ladies Help Me Decide!

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Ladies Help Me Decide!
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 8:59pm
So tomorrow is Thursday, and that means bar night with my friends, the same standing plans we've always had.

Last week these plans turned into me having sex with OM. OM that I have a huge crush on and have been flirting with for months. But I'm married. Going through the very first and VERY rocky stages of divorce from my H, but married all the same.

So here's my delema. I want to go out with my friends because I could use a little fun after a fairly stressful week at work and with H. I'm not worried about having sex again, lesson learned I really regret what happened.

But knowing OM is going to be there, do I go and try my best not to be uncomfortable since we haven't talked since it happened? Or do I stay home and just deal with not having a night with my friends? I know there will be questions about why I'm not there.

I'm way to emotional right now because H came over and we got into yet another discussion about things. So I figured I'd see what anybody else has to say about it and hopefully that will help me clear my head.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 08-20-2003 - 9:20pm
I say go, and have fun! You DO need to get out with your friends, and I know it's easier said than done, but try not to think too much about OM. Eventually you're going to come face-to-face with him anyway, so why prolong the inevitable? You'll probably be uncomfortable for just a little while anyway, so GO AND HAVE FUN! ;)

HTH

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-20-2003 - 9:26pm
Go.

This is about you and no one else. You have nothing to be embarrassed about w/OM... so go have a good time, flirt if you want to, and unwind.

-lily

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-21-2003 - 9:57am
No better way to get over a fear than to saddle back up (and I dont mean saddlein'up on your OM)...as said, dont prolong the inevitable...you'll have to face him eventually. You dont wanna change your normal routine over this...and going through a divorce myself 4 yrs ago I know the value of staying social and being with your friends as often as you can.

Saddle up girl!

Liberal