The laugh is on me

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Registered: 06-25-2010
The laugh is on me
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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 4:42am
Hi I just talked with the guy that has stolen my heart. The guy I was cuddling almost every night. The guy who is my brother-in-law. I just found out that he was cuddling me all those nights because he was doing it for me. He says he was very uncomfortable with the whole thing. Then I told him that I am not in love with my husband and he said don't tell me you love me. So I said yes. He then told me that when we were cuddling I was thinking of his brother my husband. Which is full of crap I was thinking of him. I spend a big part of my day thinking of him. When I have sex with my husband I think about my brother in law. I can't stop these feelings!!! I have tried I am so filled with anger right now that I want to scream!!!! I guess I realized that I am a really stupid person. I wish this would have never happened I want my old life back. I wish I could just sleep the night and days away.....Kaylee
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Registered: 10-03-2008
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 11:13am

you have to do what makes you happy..


perhaps you can separate from the hubs and spend time to yourself really thinking about what you are doing...


i say hands off the B I L


but, you have to decide what's best for you and what makes you happy...


i know it must be driving you stark raving mad thinking about the B I L when you are with the hubs....


take care of yourself and good luck ((HUGS))

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 1:34pm
I don't think you are stupid.
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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 2:58pm
The truth is that I want him to like me the way I like him I want to run away with him. I want us to be together. I truly love him!!! I would be so very happy to just be with him forever. The way he makes me feel is amazing!!! I have never felt this way. I want him to love me!!! I don't think I can take much longer of feeling this way knowing he doesn't feel this way. He signed onto our lease in April and is here for a year I just don't think I can live like this anymore. I feel so very down and out. He is such a sweet guy he talked to my husband for me and is trying to help our relationship. And all I want is him. I am so very fustrated...Kaylee
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Registered: 12-24-2009
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 3:57pm

he talked to your husband about you??? The two of you?? and your husband is still with you? Do you realize that if that if this comes out, it will not only break up your immediately family but up the line??? You will destroy your husband's family! Brother against Brother...dont you draw the line somewhere???


From what he said, it doesnt sound like he feels the same way about you.




Edited 7/25/2010 3:57 pm ET by brfl2009
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Registered: 06-02-2010
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 4:24pm
I think op meant that her brother in law talked to her husband about op's issues with her husband .
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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 7:27pm
Hi I should have said that he was talking to my husband about how lonely I have been feeling. My husband doesn't spend nearly enough time with me. My brother in law was trying to help mend things with my husband and I. But I really think that my brother in law does have some kind of feelings for me.But I have to forget about him my family needs me and if I were to divorce my husband my daughter would hate me forever....Kaylee
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Registered: 03-29-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 8:53am

Awww Kaylee, I'm sorry you're hurting, but it is absolutely best that you stay away from your B-I-L. I think I told you the last time you posted that it would rip apart your H's family. I can't even imagine his parents' reaction to this. That's why your fantasy of leaving your H for your B-I-L just shouldn't happen. Even if you don't care about your H or your in-laws, imagine what it would do to your B-I-L, who you claim to love, to lose his parents and his siblings by running off with you.

If you don't have the right feelings for your H, maybe you should think about leaving him. You're young, and so is he. You both could find the right person, and be happy! You both deserve that. Your daughter would accept it, if she had a happy mom and a happy dad.

Take care sweetie. I'm sorry for your pain.

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