learn from my lesson

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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:14pm

I thought I'd share my story on this board because i feel for you all. I was involved with my MM for four years. Our relationship ended last month and I know it's permanent. I will never go back. Our A started when we worked together. We became friends and so began the A. We were as close as two people could be. We confided in each other the most personal things and within three months were were in love. We supported each other, believed in each other and

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 7:36am

Welcome to MAS lilyfay!

I'm sorry that you went through all that. I hope you are on your way to healing.

About your AP "rushing" to find another AP. I wouldn't automatically assume that it means you didn't mean much to him. He might be like me. All my life, if I had a painful break-up, I would rush into another relationship to "distract" myself from the pain. Trust me, the "rebound" R is usually so empty, and it didn't make me miss the person I was missing any less - it made it worse, and I was always comparing. The person I was missing always "won" the comparisons!

Many (((HUGS))) for what you are going through...

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 9:33am

Hi Lilyfay,


I'm sorry about the way things went down in your relationship w/ MM. I dare say that I feel he did have strong feelings for you maybe even love and agree with CL-Lexione that he probably moved on to distract himself from what happened with you. I've had many men say that they do that & I'm also guilty in doing that myself. Just take comfort in knowing that you now know where you stand and you can move forwad with your life.


Wishing you all the best!

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 12-03-2009
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 12:28pm

Lily that's quite a story.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 3:38pm

I have to agree with the others: I wouldn't discount his feelings for you because of this other woman.

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Registered: 06-04-2007
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 10:14pm
Thank you all so much for your supportive words. I still feel incredibly sad when I think about what happened between us and where we are today. I just can't believe that two people could be so close and then in an instant be so far away; one person replaced by another so quickly. I put so much faith into what we had and I really believed that he was IT for me. I know that it's time to move on but I'm
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Registered: 02-06-2010
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 4:50am

i feel exactly the same way, and am wondering what is wrong with me. my new supplement (#2)

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 06-02-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 7:04pm
well I think you are naive to believe that a man who was having an affair with you wouldn't have other OWs like you ?
I know it must be hard for you to accept that he isn't going to leave his wife while you dumped your H for him.
But remember it was just an affair & it happens get used to it .
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Registered: 06-02-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 7:07pm

oh ,and i forgot to ask what exactly is the lesson here to be learnt ?
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Registered: 06-04-2007
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 9:27pm
The lesson to be learned is not to
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Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 10:30pm

your story is heartfelt and quite too common.. but you've acted the best way you know how at the time.. you've survived it and gained quite from it.. that must account for something..


pls excuse best.. we all do.. he has a condition..


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