Leaving the Board -
Find a Conversation
| Wed, 09-10-2003 - 1:05pm |
This is just my opinion - and my 2 cents worth - but I think most people coming to this board are looking for a hug, an ear and someone to talk openly about their A without judgement. Maybe that happens more than it seems, but in my case.. well...I got lots of "YOU SHOULDs" and not many cyber shoulders to lean on. I know it is hard since this board is so big now, and that mostly everyone just reads the posts and moves on without answering. I am taking such a risk to sneak time on this board - for nothing! So, I am moving on- as they say.
Good Luck to everyone on this board...maybe ya'll will be better at finding that online buddy to share the sad and the happy moments with. I'll have to keep mine to myself now... or share them with the cat.
Chloe

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I'm sorry to hear you're leaving, and the reasons why. Last year I made some really good friends on this board, and I would hope everyone would have the same opportunity. For me, the board has changed significantly because the people who come here regularly now are different and I haven't had as much time to get to know them. I suppose you're right: sometimes you just need to vent and don't want to hear how to "fix" things... I tell my H all the time to stop fixing my issues and just listen! Funny, you wouldn't think you'd have to say that on a board of mostly women!
Regardless, whatever your situation is now, I wish you the best of luck. Maybe if you're willing to come back in a few weeks or months, the atmosphere around here will change again... you never know... these things are organic.
Take care,
lily
It's very hard to find someone in exactly the same situation. I've been on and off this board since Jan 2002, and have seen it change all over, depending on who's here. People come and go faster than you can keep track of. If you check back in a month, I guarantee there will be different people.
I've been here when it was all one big rah-rah, you-go-girl session. I've seen weeks and weeks where it's nothing but sob stories from people who should wake up and smell the coffee. I've seen interesting, intelligent conversations, too, and people who are realistic about their situations.
In all this time, I've met exactly one person who seemed to be in the same situation as I am. More often, I get flamed for thinking I'm actually happily married and happily having an affair. People see things through their own lenses and not others'.
Talk to the cat, if you like. . . but come back in a month and see if it's different.
Edited 9/10/2003 3:26:14 PM ET by charmed1007
My e-mail is ElizaJane_1850@hotmail.com - I would love to have some e-pals just to chat to.
I would love to talk to other W who are M and see a S-OM.
EJ
I'm so sorry to hear you feel that way... I was actually thinking that things on the board were starting to get better with a lot of lurkers having courage to come out of hiding.
I do understand what you are saying... but I think that there is only the odd few who still insist on trying to solve everyone's problems... and I try and try and emphasise that the board is about support and accepting each other for who we are and what we do with out life. Sure... I don't agree with everyone's view... but that's me and my opinion... I will advise when I feel it's right... but it's up to whoever to whether that want to take that on board.
I always promote that you are more than welcome to email me anytime... I may not have the right words to solve a problem... but I'm more than happy to be that shoulder to lean on and give you that ear to listen.
I wish you all the best in love and life and remember... simply by this post and the responses... there is people who do care.
luv and hugs
Sweet
sweetc_@hotmail.com (careful of that underscore)
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
I've met a couple of really cool women here, If you need an online friend Instant message me with AIM my screen name is Thinkhppy6... or you can email me at thinkhppy6@yahoo.com... Don't feel neglected, no one wants you to leave...
Hugssssssssssss
=)
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