Leaving the board...(m)

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Registered: 08-14-2003
Leaving the board...(m)
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Mon, 11-24-2003 - 9:41am
I've never been a regular poster, but I feel like I should explain my departure...

I e-mailed MM over the weekend and told him that I was "removing myself from the picture." He's been under incredible stress lately, and quite honestly I feel like I'm part of the cause. It's hard enough to maintain a family life (he has three kids and yes, does love his W) and a career (which is moving forward at our company) without the added stress of an A -- especially considering the fact that I was becoming more and more demanding. I felt that as we grew closer emotionally, we should be spending more time together. I was becoming increasingly resentful of his W and his other interests. I did not like the person I was evolving into at all, and while I do recognize my shortcomings, I have not completely dealt with them and therefore no longer want to expose MM to them, if that makes any sense. I told MM that I love him more than I probably should and that this is about me, not him (the standard break-up line, but in this case it's the truth). He is hurt and confused but is putting on a good front today at work. I am in incredible emotional pain right now ("no contact" is impossible for us, since he's my boss) but wanted to let you all know that I've appreciated all the honesty and openness on this board. Thank you all and best wishes for your futures!!

ItalianPisces

 

ItalianPisces

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 10:10am
You sound like a very strong person, and only you know if you have done the right thing. Congratulations on being brave! We'll be here if you need us. (hugs)
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 10:25am
IP, congratulations on being confident enough to take one of the biggest steps of your life...you are an incredible woman and I respect you for being so brave in your endeavor...Best of luck to you and dont forget to swing by and let us know how you're doing with things...

Chin-up girl - only you know what's best for you!

*hugs*

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 10:52am
good morning italianpisces. hugs to you honey, as i know you're in alot of pain and anguish right now.

girl, you are doing a very noble, but heartbreaking, move to try to relieve some of your MM's pressure by removing yourself from his personal life. i hope you will succeed, for both of your sakes.

great, good luck and stay in touch,

gurl

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 12:23pm
((((((((Italianpisces)))))))) I can't imagine how hard this is for you. But have great respect for you with this difficult decision. Good luck to you, and hope you find many sunny days ahead.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 9:24pm

Hi Italianpisces... hon I'm sending you as many cyber hugs as I can possibly send *HUGS*


You are one very strong woman and I hope that you will get through this part of your life and you will be a stronger and I'm sure a happier woman.


I wish you all the best in what life brings your way and that you will find more happiness very soon.


Remember... you don't have to do it alone... we can still be here to get you through the hardest part.


luv and hugs

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