Well, if you've done any lurking here you will probably have discovered that for the most part, the prevailing thought is, DON'T leave your M for your AP. Unfortunately, I have to agree with that statement.
Just a bit of background for you ~ I was M for 25 years (happily, I thought) until the day that my AP/BF (who I've known for at least 20 years, he's M too) decided to make a pass at me. From that moment on my life has not been my own. To this day, I have no idea why I was so ready to start something with this guy, but start it I did. It took me about one month to realize that I could not carry on behind my H's back and so I ended my marriage...so that I could be with my AP. I was lucky in one respect in that my kids are grown and gone, I don't know what I would have done if they were still with us.
So, I left my H for my AP and it's been extremely difficult (an understatement!).
I agree, its not not a good idea to leave your H for AP.A lot of ' what ifs' come to mind if this is the choice you make.the most important would be,what if once you and AP are together in real and it doesnt work out after the initial period then you would regret leaving H.
Hi kriss,
Well, if you've done any lurking here you will probably have discovered that for the most part, the prevailing thought is, DON'T leave your M for your AP. Unfortunately, I have to agree with that statement.
Just a bit of background for you ~ I was M for 25 years (happily, I thought) until the day that my AP/BF (who I've known for at least 20 years, he's M too) decided to make a pass at me. From that moment on my life has not been my own. To this day, I have no idea why I was so ready to start something with this guy, but start it I did. It took me about one month to realize that I could not carry on behind my H's back and so I ended my marriage...so that I could be with my AP. I was lucky in one respect in that my kids are grown and gone, I don't know what I would have done if they were still with us.
So, I left my H for my AP and it's been extremely difficult (an understatement!).
I'm rather new at this, first affair, so I really don't think I'm qualified to give you any advice.