Leaving soon to where AP is-what now?
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Leaving soon to where AP is-what now?
| Mon, 02-01-2010 - 10:51am |
I heard from him so at least I know I can talk to him once I get there. I thought we were not going to see each other so I had gone and put my Ashley Madison account active. A guy, who seems very nice, also married and I have been chatting. We plan on meeting when I get there although at first will be difficult as I'll have company. So, here's my situation-SG(AP) and I had some words and I found he wants just sex where I felt we were going to hang out and have fun as well. Ive seen where others have said on other threads their AP was wishy washy. This is exactly how my AP is. When we started getting close-he ran. Then he comes back. Then he disappears again. he doesnt want to cuddle because it makes it complicated. He seems to have these rules instead of just enjoying time together. I felt we were going nowhere so started talking to this other guy.
Now I'm not sure what to do! Since i have no idea what will happen with SG I do not want to stop talking to this new guy but at the same time I sure as heck dont want to lead anyone on. I am not a girl who sleeps around, really just looking for one person to have fun with and laugh with. I'm feeling slightly like I have cold feet with new guy because I am used to AP and feel very comfortable with him, am very attracted to him and he has more free time BUT noticed he has put "Its complicated" on his facebook although did not mention seeing someone to me so not sure what is going on! As you can see I am conflicted. I have fun with SG when I see him liked him as a person but I saw his moody side and did not like what he had to say. Not sure what this new guy is like but he seems very nice and probably more mature. SG does not seem to have much experience with women even though he is mid 30's. I do not know if I should talk to SG first and see what happens but what do I do in the mean time with the new guy? Please do not think I am a mean person stringing him along because I am not trying to. I have NO idea what will happen, if anything with SG and not sure I want to continue our A. I guess I am just very confused right now. Im sorry if my post seems all over the place. It is how I am feeling right now.
I would really appreciate any advice from you guys. It's easier for us to see clarity in other's situations, just not our own.
Now I'm not sure what to do! Since i have no idea what will happen with SG I do not want to stop talking to this new guy but at the same time I sure as heck dont want to lead anyone on. I am not a girl who sleeps around, really just looking for one person to have fun with and laugh with. I'm feeling slightly like I have cold feet with new guy because I am used to AP and feel very comfortable with him, am very attracted to him and he has more free time BUT noticed he has put "Its complicated" on his facebook although did not mention seeing someone to me so not sure what is going on! As you can see I am conflicted. I have fun with SG when I see him liked him as a person but I saw his moody side and did not like what he had to say. Not sure what this new guy is like but he seems very nice and probably more mature. SG does not seem to have much experience with women even though he is mid 30's. I do not know if I should talk to SG first and see what happens but what do I do in the mean time with the new guy? Please do not think I am a mean person stringing him along because I am not trying to. I have NO idea what will happen, if anything with SG and not sure I want to continue our A. I guess I am just very confused right now. Im sorry if my post seems all over the place. It is how I am feeling right now.
I would really appreciate any advice from you guys. It's easier for us to see clarity in other's situations, just not our own.

Well here's my 2 cents...
I've been reading your posts so I know your back and forth with SG. Here's the thing... I don't think he's that in to you. Obviously you have feelings for him. Not saying your passionately in love; but you want/have different expectations about this then him. I think he's probably attracted to you and happy to provide "companionship" when you are in town; but he's not crazy about you. I think if you saw him, likely he'd hook up with you again; but its unlikely anything would change, at least into the friendship you want. I think the cycle will just keep repeating itself with this guy.
If you keep wanting a real friendship with this guy I don't think its going to happen; and in MHO you're setting yourself up for disappointment with SG.