Let me Rave and re-introduce myself

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Let me Rave and re-introduce myself
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Wed, 08-26-2009 - 8:04pm

Hello Everybody!


I haven't been on this board in well over a year now. Too busy chasing women LOL. I slightly remember the SN of benska2003 but not really sure. Is Chrissie still here? She was the first to post a pic of herself here!


Anyway I just wanted to rave about affairs. Yes society deems them wrong etc. but my experience has been SO GOOOOD !


I openly tell a woman upfront that I am married and it is up to her if she wants to continue talking to me. All are shocked at first but find it incredibly refreshing and brutally honest what I am doing that their sheer curiosity enables them to talk with me.


Most of these women have become great friends of mine but amazing friends ! I would not have met these women had I not pursued a mistress to replace the one I had in January of this year. I struggled for 8 mos about having an affair and since I did it I never looked back.


I am totally hooked on this lifestyle. It's exciting, energizing and makes me feel alive and wanted. I have profiles all over the place and meet very unique and interesting people..mostly friends now but eventually I will find a new mistress.


I tell my W I am going out and I do - go to bars, clubs even parties it's awesome!


Do I expect you to agree with what I am doing? NO. Do I care..NO.


So for those of you considering an affair or already in one I wish that you find what it is you are looking for and hope you get the adrenaline rush that many people just don't have the guts to experience for themselves and never will.

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Registered: 07-26-2009
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 1:07am

Chrissie was a fraud.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 7:30am

Very few of us on here would rave about how wonderful affairs are. Have you read the posts here for awhile? Have you seen the pain and anguish most people go through who are involved in affairs? Have you read the "D-Day" thread down in resources? We do support each other here, but most of us don't think of affairs - ours or anyone elses, as hugely positive experiences. Even those of us in happier or calmer affairs see the pain that people go through in most affairs.

You sound like someone who would be happier single. You remind me of Charlie on "2 1/2 Men".

But, whatever opinion you have is certainly your right! Just read around here a little, and be mindful of the pain most people here are in when they post.

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 11:38am

Mister,


Hi.


I will second another poster - what you are doing is not the courageous thing, it is the chicken thing.

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 6:27pm

Why do I need to leave my wife to have fun? I have met people who are happy in their home situation, meaning they don't want to change it, but they want to have fun on the side.


Let me clarify, I told my W that I was gonna look for 'friends' and if she wants a divorce then I will agree to it but I will not ask her for one. She hasn't pulled the trigger. If she does so be it. But I won't.


Yeah, what I am doing might be seen as cowardly by you and others. But what I am doing is the envy of others too.


I am not looking for women who want something serious either. I am specifically looking for women who want a man but don't want a relationship because they are too busy climing the career ladder or whatever. Maybe the woman is attached and she wants something extra - I am looking for those. I don't go chasing women who are looking for a serious boyfriend because I cannot fulfill that role.


Like I said I tell women UPFRONT my situation and they can choose for themselves what steps to take. They are adults.

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 7:00pm

let me repeat: I told my W what I was going to do and I let the chips fall where they may ... And we are still together and I do what I want.


I pay the bills, I pay for the kids to go to private school and I even told her she can if she chooses to find herself a BF. She told me all she needs is me.


No she isn't happy and she doesn't approve but i don't see her handing me divorce papers either


We are like roommates now...very good friends actually. Occasional maintenance sex that i don't really care for but it keeps the peace.


I can't help it if I want a decent blowjob. She doesn't cook for me or do me any particular favors. She literally has to twist my arm into allowing her to do something for me

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 11:58am
Blech
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Registered: 09-28-2006
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 2:38pm

Mister,


Hi.


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You don't have to repeat what you wrote in the previous response to another poster.

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Registered: 08-02-2006
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 2:56pm
Gosh, I sure hope you aren't the MM I'm seeing!
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Registered: 04-17-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 5:49pm

Posting here to gloat on your affairs speaks volumes to your ego and need for admiration.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2008
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 6:09pm

Yeah that would be a terrible thing I suppose. let's see I dont need viagra yet...i don't do drugs and don't really drink..i'm in shape cuz lets face it why would a woman want some slob and this is my favorite: I don't make women wait hours or days for communication. In other words I am not guilty of "no-communication".


I thought this was My Affair Support I didn't realize this place changed to Miserable Affair Support.


Everybody seems to be

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