Let me Rave and re-introduce myself

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Let me Rave and re-introduce myself
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Wed, 08-26-2009 - 8:04pm

Hello Everybody!


I haven't been on this board in well over a year now. Too busy chasing women LOL. I slightly remember the SN of benska2003 but not really sure. Is Chrissie still here? She was the first to post a pic of herself here!


Anyway I just wanted to rave about affairs. Yes society deems them wrong etc. but my experience has been SO GOOOOD !


I openly tell a woman upfront that I am married and it is up to her if she wants to continue talking to me. All are shocked at first but find it incredibly refreshing and brutally honest what I am doing that their sheer curiosity enables them to talk with me.


Most of these women have become great friends of mine but amazing friends ! I would not have met these women had I not pursued a mistress to replace the one I had in January of this year. I struggled for 8 mos about having an affair and since I did it I never looked back.


I am totally hooked on this lifestyle. It's exciting, energizing and makes me feel alive and wanted. I have profiles all over the place and meet very unique and interesting people..mostly friends now but eventually I will find a new mistress.


I tell my W I am going out and I do - go to bars, clubs even parties it's awesome!


Do I expect you to agree with what I am doing? NO. Do I care..NO.


So for those of you considering an affair or already in one I wish that you find what it is you are looking for and hope you get the adrenaline rush that many people just don't have the guts to experience for themselves and never will.

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 6:50pm

I am sorry but I was not gloating nor was it my intention to come across that way. I was merely stating that an Affair worked for me and I avoided the guilt and all those feeling by telling my W upfront. The OW knew in advance what she was getting into and all future women will know also so there are no nasty surprises.


Considering what I am putting my W thru ..I treat my W better than my ex-mistress. Wait what did he say? You wanna re-read that?


I treat my W better than the ex-mistress. I buy my W clothes..I buy her shoes If I can afford it the W gets it. I pay for everything.


I still love the W..she just can't give me the kind of BJ that the exmistress did. My W won't let me do oral sex on her either. Why would I want to kick my W to the curb over sex?


FYI W is a cougar there is a over 15

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Registered: 06-10-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 7:16pm
One need only read the first three posts to come to the conclusion that YOUR affair experiences don't quite measure up to that of the "group". Since most people who indulge in affairs are self centered, one shouldn't be surprised to find that each of them considers "their" situation to be unique.
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Registered: 05-13-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 10:35pm
Come on, cut him some slack. He did come off as gloating and arrogant BUT, we all justify what, why and how we deal with our affairs. Maybe the wife will learn to justify like he does.
Scar
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Registered: 08-03-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 10:52pm

I don't think it is the fact that your telling women up front that your married that bothers most people here. It is that no matter the relationship it deserves some level of respect for each other. If you find someone that would tolerate that so be it, but I don' t think that would work for very long unless you came to some sort of agreement arrangement that would work for both of you.


Let's face it, you yourself said your wife isn't happy about it. So that is why one tends to feel sorry for your wife. That also makes it hard to believe that you actually love your wife, but have sex with someone else ... and there are no emotional feelings for your affair person?


Even if you had an arrangement with another person, I don't see how you could continue and not develop an emotional tie as well. or feel guilt or something. After all good sex only is really good is the other person is open emotionally as well as physically ... desiring sex comes readily there feeling love and affection for another person. I guess it is all connected for me. I would want it to be that for my affair person as well. I think most of us post here because our hearts are involved and still want to do the right thing. somehow.


It wouldn't be worth risking your lifestyle for a one night stand. It makes me feel a bit sad for you intentionally messing with peoples emotions.... but if you develop a relationship and it works, then I think most would be interested in how that does work. Oh and if you had an affair before ... why did it stop working?

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Registered: 08-02-2006
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 12:38pm
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Registered: 07-09-2008
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 4:32pm

Plain and simple, what you are doing is not "being honest" because you're "such a great guy".

 

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Registered: 07-09-2008
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 4:36pm

You are a sick, sick twisted man.


Aside from what you are doing... you are taking advantage of your wife's love for you.

 

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 3:20am
It boggles the mind to wonder what sort of support you are after here!
You dont seem to have any problems or care to hear opinions on helping you through tough times, you just seem to be after confirmation that you arent a total tosser. Maybe Penthouse Forum would be a better place for you to post...
Happy in your lifestyle is one thing, butposting here and rubbing your blatant boasting in peoples faces who are confused and needing assistance in life choices is a little crass. Hey i am all for standing up for a man's rights, but in your case, i have to make an exception.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 10-21-2006
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 3:07pm

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And here in lies the rub. ;-)


See ladies, the thread on EAS about the MM code book wasn't very far from the truth. It's all about the BJs and sex.


Thanks for the truth, Mister. I guess prostitutes have gotten too expensive. ;-)


~Iddy~


Iddy

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Registered: 08-14-2009
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 4:28pm
I find your post a little suspect but I hope your wife doesnt ever have sex with you or