Let me Rave and re-introduce myself

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Let me Rave and re-introduce myself
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Wed, 08-26-2009 - 8:04pm

Hello Everybody!


I haven't been on this board in well over a year now. Too busy chasing women LOL. I slightly remember the SN of benska2003 but not really sure. Is Chrissie still here? She was the first to post a pic of herself here!


Anyway I just wanted to rave about affairs. Yes society deems them wrong etc. but my experience has been SO GOOOOD !


I openly tell a woman upfront that I am married and it is up to her if she wants to continue talking to me. All are shocked at first but find it incredibly refreshing and brutally honest what I am doing that their sheer curiosity enables them to talk with me.


Most of these women have become great friends of mine but amazing friends ! I would not have met these women had I not pursued a mistress to replace the one I had in January of this year. I struggled for 8 mos about having an affair and since I did it I never looked back.


I am totally hooked on this lifestyle. It's exciting, energizing and makes me feel alive and wanted. I have profiles all over the place and meet very unique and interesting people..mostly friends now but eventually I will find a new mistress.


I tell my W I am going out and I do - go to bars, clubs even parties it's awesome!


Do I expect you to agree with what I am doing? NO. Do I care..NO.


So for those of you considering an affair or already in one I wish that you find what it is you are looking for and hope you get the adrenaline rush that many people just don't have the guts to experience for themselves and never will.

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Registered: 08-02-2009
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 9:32pm
I think I'm gonna be unpopular with my response!!!
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Registered: 08-09-2009
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 10:05pm
Completely understand what you are saying, but if you read his initial post and subsequent responses, what does he want support for???? He is all good! He is fit, rich, drop dead gorgeous and has a great cougar wife that lets him do his thing. Why on earth does he need this place? What could we possibly help him with? If he needs help deciding if which woman to have an affair with because there are too many to choose from, well, that is different.
He seems to only want validation, approval and numerous back slaps with some Attaboys! thrown in. Its great he is happy, but why is he HERE in MAS????
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 08-03-2009
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 10:53pm

I was kind of disappointed mister hasn't come back on here actually. I was hoping he would be HONEST, because another poster was right he is not here to benefit anyone or even ask questions or advice. He simply stated he loves affairs, but added nothing other than to gloat. In saying that, I don't hold anything against him for "loving affairs" but then perhaps he should elaborate how he manages to work that out.


He first stated his wife isn't happy, and evidently he doesn't care enough to spare her feelings and be discrete about it or discuss it with her. So he doesn't love his wife. Well, no judgement on that part either, but he said he did.


He said he has had previous affairs in the past, he didn't elaborate on how or why that ended which might be informative for some that are purely in a sexual affair, why did it end? Was his ap getting to emotionally attached? Or did both decide to end it?


Anyhow, is he taking the means to protect himself against sexual diseases and is that discussed too?

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Registered: 05-18-2007
Wed, 09-02-2009 - 3:25am
This is not an affair. Your wife knows and
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Registered: 05-20-2007
Wed, 09-02-2009 - 3:46am

i think it is great that mister has a place to post, just like everyone else


on this board...i do get surorised sometimes how the tables turn on men


who post here from women in a's....sorry mister, a sw observation


trying to point out the obvious here...


anyway, it is good to see men comfortable posting here


i would probably take lifeafter33's thought process tho....


gee, i would hope - if i was still involved with an ap - that he


might not be so cavelier about it, but you sound

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Wed, 09-02-2009 - 3:54am
right there with ya'...






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Registered: 04-28-2009
Wed, 09-02-2009 - 2:44pm
Most of you on this board are bashing this guy for being honest, and your sticking up for his wife when in fact many of you are the OW to a MM. I just don't get it? How are you going to sit here and tell him he should just be single, when many of you know how hard it is to leave your W or your H even though you may LOVE your AP or in his case his AP's. I just don't see how all of you can be so hypocritical for him being honest when most of you are doing the same thing, the only difference is you guys are keeping it a secret and he's not. I know you all will probably be mad after this response, but it seems like the truth hurts many of you, and honestly I think many of you
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Registered: 08-14-2009
Wed, 09-02-2009 - 3:44pm
.........maybe its because we are NOT
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Registered: 08-09-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 12:23am
Couch potato- if you ever see my posts, i am all up for men having feelings- if not too much empathy for the males. This guy is just a braggart. He doesnt NEED support. He wants medals and validation for his *honesty* and wants us to applaud his openness with his choices.
If you read further into his subsequent posts, you will see he says his wife is NOT happy for the arrangement he made for them both but she puts up with it as she obviously loves him and/or the lifestyle he provides. If anything his WIFE should be posting somewhere around here not him. He hasnt got any issues that need advice as he states he is content with his lifestyle. This is the only point people are trying to make. No one here ever says that one person is worse than another in an A -either male or female, but why post to a support board if you dont want or need any????
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 09-28-2006
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 2:55pm

Jessie,


I venture to say that your portrayal of his post is rather hyperbolic.


I would say that what the OP is looking for is actually some sort of support.