Let me Rave and re-introduce myself

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Let me Rave and re-introduce myself
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Wed, 08-26-2009 - 8:04pm

Hello Everybody!


I haven't been on this board in well over a year now. Too busy chasing women LOL. I slightly remember the SN of benska2003 but not really sure. Is Chrissie still here? She was the first to post a pic of herself here!


Anyway I just wanted to rave about affairs. Yes society deems them wrong etc. but my experience has been SO GOOOOD !


I openly tell a woman upfront that I am married and it is up to her if she wants to continue talking to me. All are shocked at first but find it incredibly refreshing and brutally honest what I am doing that their sheer curiosity enables them to talk with me.


Most of these women have become great friends of mine but amazing friends ! I would not have met these women had I not pursued a mistress to replace the one I had in January of this year. I struggled for 8 mos about having an affair and since I did it I never looked back.


I am totally hooked on this lifestyle. It's exciting, energizing and makes me feel alive and wanted. I have profiles all over the place and meet very unique and interesting people..mostly friends now but eventually I will find a new mistress.


I tell my W I am going out and I do - go to bars, clubs even parties it's awesome!


Do I expect you to agree with what I am doing? NO. Do I care..NO.


So for those of you considering an affair or already in one I wish that you find what it is you are looking for and hope you get the adrenaline rush that many people just don't have the guts to experience for themselves and never will.

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Registered: 08-14-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 4:44pm

I do not believe I exaggerated ANYTHING and this guy is NOT looking for support, just an opportunity to gloat.


I am not the only one here that feels the same way. I feel bad for the wife and I hope she gets tested

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Registered: 06-10-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 10:37pm
As I mentioned before, very few of these women will recognize their own actions when delving into yours. Were I to discover my wife cheating, I would think no less of her if she chose to do it with ten men, than I would if she did it with one.
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Registered: 06-10-2008
Fri, 09-11-2009 - 6:56pm

Sorry if I haven't been on here to make timely responses to getting bashed on here. I was being selfish again.


Yes I practice safe sex. And currently am looking for a replacement so it's not like I am screwing around as you imagine


So yeah I have been focusing on finding someone rather than be on here.


Somebody asked why it didn't work out with the ex-mistress. Well she actually felt more guilt about being with a married man. Even though she was single she was more difficult to reach than I was


Also I was too aggressive for her as far as the sex goes. She just wanted a light tapping and I want a good hard f---.


Another thing that I wanted to add was that my reason for posting was NOT to gloat but to show that you can have an affair and not be miserable and confused like many of you are.


So attention women: If you go into your relationship and slack off on the sex or the BJ's then your man can end up becoming someone like me. Look this does not apply to men who are useless to you. I am talking about the men who treat you right,

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Registered: 08-02-2009
Sat, 09-12-2009 - 12:45am

I have to say.....I like your wittiness!!

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Registered: 08-14-2009
Sat, 09-12-2009 - 3:57am

It works both ways....Most of the posters here are women. Women whos HUSBANDS have let themselves go and stop being affectionate and caring. Maybe they care way too much for sports, work too hard and long hours, go out too much with their friends, ignore the kids, stop taking them out on date nights, do not help around the house, get fat, drink to much, abusive, stop shaving or wearing crappy clothes. Oh and maybe they find their husbands rotten in bed and horrible at oral sex...because let's face it...some of you men are just horrible at it so we have to fake it....

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Sat, 09-12-2009 - 4:52am

>>>So attention women: If you go into your relationship and slack off on the sex or the BJ's then your man can end up becoming someone like me. Look this does not apply to men who are useless to you. I am talking about the men who treat you right, work hard, pay the bills, and want some loving. If he has to constantly ask you for it or if you start dressing in barney purple sweatpants then don't be all shocked if he goes looking elsewhere<<<

AHA!!! So there is a sliver of what you ACUALLY think coming out now...

I was not attacking your decision to enter in an A AT ALL. My issue was that you were crowing your heart out about how great they are and they work for you. Well great for you- but why feel the need to display it on a public board where issues posted here are for help, guidance and opinions. Your original post didnt seem to meet any of those needs IMO.

BUT

I see that you do have an issue (or am i reading into this too much) that you are secretly needing validation because you really are not as happy with this arrangement as YOU make out. Do you WANT an A or would you prefer your wife get back into your marriage physically and do these additional things for you to make you happy? Would that stop your need for a mistress if you got more raunchy sex and BJ's? If that were the case, then i doubt that you would have been met with such hostility. If you need more than what your W is willing to give- thats what we are here to listen to, empathize and hopefully help in a way that is productive.

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 06-10-2009
Sat, 09-12-2009 - 7:41pm
I hope you ducked when you posted that last message, mister.
Of course we all would prefer to have a SO who did everything right and was as enthusiastic about physical contact as we are.
But alas, it seldom happens and I'm fairly certain that it NEVER happens for most who post on this particular board.
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Registered: 06-10-2008
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 8:53pm

Thank you Lacy...


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Registered: 06-10-2008
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 8:55pm

>I hope you ducked when you posted that last message, mister.


I did..for about 4 days..maybe they won't remember who I am after so long


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Registered: 06-10-2008
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 10:04pm

Listen