LIBERAL IS CRASHING - I need support
Find a Conversation
LIBERAL IS CRASHING - I need support
| Tue, 08-19-2003 - 2:07pm |
His "I'll call you back in a little bit" has turned into almost 3 days and still no call...
| Tue, 08-19-2003 - 2:07pm |
Pages
I had a free weekend with my DH out of town this past weekend. We were supposed to get together for the day on Sunday, this was his idea 2 weeks ago...I called him Sunday morning and left him a voice mail that Id be home at 2. He called me at 2:30 and he was on his way to the lake to test drive a boat he may buy. How that became more important than seeing me, I dont know. He said he would call me in a little bit and this was Sunday at 2:30 and he still hasnt called...how am I suppose to excuse it when he's being this inconsiderate?
Liberal
Liberal
I'm with you....if something that can wait becomes more important than spending time with you -- especially when time is so short -- then he needs to know that you've made the choice to curb him should it continue. Then he has to make the choice to rectify the problem or get in the wind.
My (x)MM thought it was "something miniscule." I'm sure he still doesn't realize it's part of the reason he's been dismissed. I love him to death & I miss him to pieces, but the hurt that escalates from having my time & feelings continually disrespected and routinely dismissed was unbearable. Like you, I couldn't see what I was supposed to be getting outta that crappy, inconsiderate behaviour from him.
I think it's a total cop-out to say that's just the way men are. It is not. It is not an innate urge but learned behavior that IS within any person's control. And anyone can learn to pick up the phone and call someone, to follow through on their word and to treat other's time as valuable as their own.
No doubt, your MM has become used to you initiating all the calls... it doesn't occur to him to return the favor because you always step up to the plate.
Even the "miniscule" things can show disrespect and selfishness. It's up to you how much of it you're willing to put up with.
best of luck,
lily
Fact is: it is inconsiderate and personally I wouldn't be the one to phone first. Perhaps I am being petty but if they are really wondering about you then they should phone. Especially if they told you they would! Why should we as women have to be the ones to suck it up and call every time?
Basically my advice is to tell him straight out how you feel about the way you were treated. If it happens again then wait until he phones.. do NOT phone him first.
Pages