To Lilah, on temptation

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Registered: 06-26-2003
To Lilah, on temptation
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:19pm
Lilah,

I agree with your post. I believe everybody has a

threshold for cheating. I think it moves up and

down, perhaps on a daily basis. For some it may be

so high that for all practical purposes they would

never cheat, but the potential is always there.

I guess the better care you take of yourself, the more

attractive you are, the more likely you are to attract

the attention of someone that can get to your heart. I

firmly believe that they are out there, for every one

of us. That combination of looks, personality, charm,

attentiveness, whatever it is, they have it and they

exist.

This is not to say I had no choice in the matter, I do not

want to try to avoid my responsibility either. When I

met that person though, I stopped thinking with my head

and listened only to my heart. That reaction seems pretty

common here. If I had it all to do over again, even knowing

what I know now, I honestly doubt I would do anything

differently.

One found me, I guess one found you too.

Thanks for the thought...

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 3:12pm
I think perhaps going my whole life being boring, I didn't really have a chance to pick and choose my "lovers." If I'd looked like this at 23, I probably wouldn't have known how to handle it, but I'm such a romantic chances are I would have settled down anyway. I've decided that people letting themselves go downhill after marriage is probably a good thing. If we all stayed looking as hot or hotter than we did in our teens/early 20s, the divorce rate would probably be higher. But that's probably wrong to say -- it shouldn't be all about looks. I can say this -- just saw a picture yesterday of MM from when he was fat and I can tell you, without a doubt, if he still looked like that I wouldn't even be tempted. I was almost "untempted" just seeing the picture. Not because it's all about looks, but because it reminded me of the guy I knew back then -- before he started charming me. I didn't even see him as attractive. He was just a big guy I worked with. Now he's this guy who looks straight out of a magazine, with his muscles and chiseled jaw... I know I have a part in this too, but I can honestly say that if he'd never made a move, it would have remained a fantasy. That's just how I am. I've always been 100% happy with the fantasy, until now. Now that I've had a taste of the "reality," I don't think I can go back to a life of fiction!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-26-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:13pm
Lilah,

I understand you perfectly. Perhaps not knowing

how good it can be is better in the long run. Or

is it? I think I would rather know. Isn't this

what undid Adam and Eve? Forbidden knowledge?

Just a thought...