A little about me...

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A little about me...
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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 2:22pm

So I'm your new CL. We've been lacking a CL here for awhile, and I might be a bit different from previous CLs. I have huge boots to fill, and I'll do my best, but.. like I said there are huge boots to fill! All the previous CLs have my utmost respect.

I know I'll be a bit different from some previous CLs. For one thing, I am actively involved in an affair. There's only one other CL, since I've been here, who was in that situation. For the most part, CLs have been "in the open" in real life - so that they didn't need to "hide" their identities so much. Not me. I have to stay under cover. And this means I can never be as open as I'd like to be about the simplest things. I'm very cautious about what I share here. You'll never know exactly how old I am or how many children I have or exactly where I live or what my life situation is; on other message boards I frequent I can chatter away about upcoming milestones and events and where I'm going or what I'm doing. I can meet cyberfriends from those places for lunch or breakfast if they are passing through. Not here. I can never share with you the things I share with them.

But I CAN share with you the things I CAN'T share with them. You'll know more about my "real" self than they will. You all, my dears, have been "compartmentalized" into my "affair life".

And that's a fact of many of our lives, isn't it? At least it is for those of us who are married, plan to stay married, and are involved in an A.

So I will share what I can, support you when I can, maybe be a little blunter than I should at times - but forgive me - together maybe we can all make this place the best it can be!

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 8:59pm
Yes we do need each other Spy!

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:13pm

Darn...and I was hoping for the full bio including turn-ons, turn-offs, likes and dislikes-like the Playboy centerfolds each month.

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:38pm

Hey - I could be vague enough on the turn-ons turn-offs LOL!

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:40pm

Hi! Glad you took the cl position.

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:51pm

Thanks, alive! I agree that not being able to share more detailed info shouldn't interfere in our ability to help each other, and I hope there are some lurkers who will realize that they CAN join in, if they don't share too much personal info.

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Registered: 09-07-2009
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 10:54pm
Awesome to have you as our Cl lexi--this board has been sorely lacking a Cl since our girl Lynn and Shadowz have retired....welcome and thank you.
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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 1:52am

See.. I have a different perspective post-affair than a lot of people because I ended up with AP. Unlike a lot of affairs that end with the two people going their separate ways, I'm here to show that sometimes...though rare... you DO end up with that person.

My boyfriend was single when we met and I know that made it a lot easier for us to move from an affair to a relationship. I didn't have to wait around while he decided if he wanted to leave or not. Also, my boyfriend doesn't have any kids, so we didn't have to deal with that either.

A few years ago, I was in an A with a married man. It lasted for almost 2 years. He remained with his wife and I stayed with my H. We ended it, but stayed friends. He tried to rekindle it more than once and I admit I did cave a few times right after the A ended. But, eventually I realized he was a cake eater and it wasn't going anywhere. So, I moved on.

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:29am
Thanks Nevermore.

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:44am

There are some other success stories around here EJfan.

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 8:16am

Congrats lexione ! This board is going to benefit from your experience.

Great to have you as cl!!