A little about me...

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A little about me...
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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 2:22pm

So I'm your new CL. We've been lacking a CL here for awhile, and I might be a bit different from previous CLs. I have huge boots to fill, and I'll do my best, but.. like I said there are huge boots to fill! All the previous CLs have my utmost respect.

I know I'll be a bit different from some previous CLs. For one thing, I am actively involved in an affair. There's only one other CL, since I've been here, who was in that situation. For the most part, CLs have been "in the open" in real life - so that they didn't need to "hide" their identities so much. Not me. I have to stay under cover. And this means I can never be as open as I'd like to be about the simplest things. I'm very cautious about what I share here. You'll never know exactly how old I am or how many children I have or exactly where I live or what my life situation is; on other message boards I frequent I can chatter away about upcoming milestones and events and where I'm going or what I'm doing. I can meet cyberfriends from those places for lunch or breakfast if they are passing through. Not here. I can never share with you the things I share with them.

But I CAN share with you the things I CAN'T share with them. You'll know more about my "real" self than they will. You all, my dears, have been "compartmentalized" into my "affair life".

And that's a fact of many of our lives, isn't it? At least it is for those of us who are married, plan to stay married, and are involved in an A.

So I will share what I can, support you when I can, maybe be a little blunter than I should at times - but forgive me - together maybe we can all make this place the best it can be!

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 8:17am
Thanks Funky!

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 2:18pm

Congrats Lexione!


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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 2:25pm

I would never disregard someone else's perspective about things. While AP and I ended up together, my first A was far more chaotic and stressful than this one. Looking back, I should have ended it before it really started -- but, I'm betting I'm not the only one who thinks that way after an A ends. I won't step on anyone's toes or intentionally hurt someone either. I guess, I just wanna offer someone the support *I* needed when in my A's (esp the first one...). I remember the "high" of spending the day with him and the "low" of knowing he was with his W and kids. So, I DO understand how hard it can be.

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