A little update...

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A little update...
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Thu, 01-15-2004 - 1:14pm

My MM called me the next day (yesterday) and apologized profusely for having to break our "date."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 1:48pm
good for you, flirty girl!! most men just don't understand that all they have to do i stay in touch whether by email or phone and let us know what's going on! then we don't "overthink" what the NC really means. truth is, men just don't think!!

gurl

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:04pm
Hi, you are so right!! I am the #1 offender of thinking the worst!! I am happy again, been talking with MM alot this week, and yes he is usually a very busy guy so if he has a couple hours to chat online with I consider that a nice thing. And hopefully I'll be seeing him soon too. Take care!!

Dusty
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:09pm
see, we're so easy. all a man has to do is talk to us!! why do they make a R so darn difficult with the NC? i don't have that problem at all, but from the board, i'd say 80% of the posters do.

gurl




Edited 2/17/2004 9:20:33 PM ET by gurlfriend50
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:15pm
Boy, you are good!! I should learn to do that too. Next time if I don't hear from him for say a week or so, I will send him an email saying he'd better get in touch. He says he hasn't had 2nd thoughts (which is what I always think) but that he was sick (this time) and really busy (other times). But then we can go for weeks and weeks where we talk almost every day for at least an hour or two, and I know that's alot out of his work day (heck, its alot out of my workday!!)

So that has to mean something right??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:33pm
but why does he do that -- talk to you every day for an hour and then suddenly NC for a week or more -- when MM knows you get upset and hurt!! because it's all about him and his feelings and wants and needs, not yours!

dusty, don't make this A more than it is -- a little sideline activity for MM. please don't invest any more of your heart into it. i fear you will end up with a broken heart if you do!

gurl

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:44pm
I know you are right gurl. And I am trying to keep things in perspective. Who knows, maybe H will get better this year and then I'll be the one giving MM the brush-off!! Actually, H has been alot nicer and a little better lately. Maybe with a little coaxing, we can make our relationship better. He seems to want to try. Only now he's stuck working 7 days/week. No time for anything!!
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:58pm
But still ... I can't see how MM can have NO feelings for me, after more than 2 years. Because it wouldn't last this long if he didn't. He could easily find someone more convenient, closer, where he didn't have to cross the border just to get sex!! So I have to feel that although he can be insensitive sometimes, he must have a little bit of feelings for me after all is said and done.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 3:52pm
dusty, of course he has feelings for you, they are just not overwhelmingly insane. and yes he could find someone closer and more convenient, but do you think he actually wants that. you met him online right? MM isn't looking for someone close by, too much of a chance to get caught. but since you are within a reasonable distance, but not right in his face, offering him sex whenver he wants it, MM can see you when he feels like it. and you put up with it.

unless you demand attention, respect and appropriate behavior from MM, he'll continue to treat you anyway he wants to!!

gurl

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 4:00pm
You're probably right. Well we'll see what happens. He did try to get me today but I wasn't here. So I'll let it go on until if/when there is another NC period then I'll have to deal with it one way or the other.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 4:14pm
Also, for the amount of trouble it seems to be when you either 1/ work with the MM or 2/ live RIGHT NEXT to him or 3/ are RELATED to him or whatever close type of relationships alot of women are having, I am personally GLAD that I don't have to worry about bumping into MM at the mall or something and then I would for sure have some type of look on my face that would give the game away. Then I'd be really up the creek!! I'm sure he feels the same way.
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