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Living in Fear
| Wed, 11-11-2009 - 11:06am |
I've been here before, am back again and a day shy of possibly making the biggest mistake of my life.
| Wed, 11-11-2009 - 11:06am |
I've been here before, am back again and a day shy of possibly making the biggest mistake of my life.
It isn't too late to admit to your H that you have decided that the divorce is not what you want. The OM sounds dangerous and has shown you what a R with him would be like. I believe you would be miserable and the R would be doomed to failure with much heartache on your part. I also believe that you need to put a restraining order on the OM to protect yourself and your family. I hope this turns out well for you but you need to be vigilant.
While I truly appreciate you responding I still don't know what to do.
I'm so sorry you're in this situation.
Kinok -
I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation.
I agree completely You do NOT need to D your H, but rather go to counseling, live apart for a while and drop the AP. If you need to get a restraining order than do so. Many times threats are simply threats to manipulate you to do what they want you to do, but whether or not they would actually do those things is questionable. Take your power back, change your number, don't let AP know where you are living. You said that you could lose your job...does AP work with you? You will most likely at some point have to tell H about the A, but now isn't the time. You will want to start counseling and begin dating H again, but do be cautious and aware of where XAP is b/c you want to be the first to tell H. Make sure H knows that the D was b/c you two had grown apart, but now after the weekend, you really feel like, there may still be something there so you want to take it one day at a time. If your gut is telling you NO NO NO, then DON'T go through with the D no matter what.
Lynn (tgrbabe) is very smart and I absolutely agree 110% with her post!
Haven't read the replies yet but the first thing that glares out at me is that you cannot stay with your H unless you are willing to confess the A.
Well today was the day . .