Lonely OW - ready to move on...
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| Sun, 02-15-2004 - 9:46pm |
It's now been 2 months since I've seen him, though we still talk on the phone and email. I am left now wondering if I was played - though deep down I don't believe it. Even if I wasn't played, I feel very disappointed in the whole thing. I know there are very good reasons for our not seeing each other lately, but deep down I keep thinking, if our roles were reversed, I would have found a way to see him and not leave him wondering what's happening.
If I were someone else reading this, I would think that the person writing this sounds like a complete fool - of course she was played! But I honestly don't think so. Still, it's Valentine's weekend, and I'm lonely. No call, no email, no nothing. I really don't ask for a lot, but the message is getting through louder and clearer, even though he has yet to actually address it.
I'm moving on now, and hoping to meet someone new - someone UNMARRIED, for sure. I definitely don't like being the "other woman" and don't intend to be one again.
Mr. K***** in NJ, I know you read these boards sometimes. I hope things work out on your end, but I don't feel you've been completely honest with me, and I won't continue this way. You knew that from the beginning.

Free
As for the post about the delay in leaving due to the daughter. Never discount the power of guilt. Guilt will make a person do something they don't want or keep at something longer than they might have otherwise. I stayed in a contented, less-than-satisfactory marriage for 6 years because of guilt. It very likely is true that he's worried about the effects of a divorce on his daughter. And it is also very likely true that he will not resolve that conflict in his mind for a long time. My advice to you would be to get cozy with the idea he's staying married. If being an OW is working for you, then stay with him. If it's not, you've got some thinking to do.
Lucky
Great reply Lucky