Lonely

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Lonely
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Sat, 07-03-2010 - 10:21pm

I felt really lonely today.

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Registered: 05-21-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sat, 07-03-2010 - 11:31pm

Hi Jane...right there with you honey...sending you (((HUGS)))


I am with my family this holiday weekend and yet I am still lonely! What is up with that. I don't know what it is that is missing in my marriage...still trying to figure out in my head what is going on that is making me have A's. Unfortunately, being involved with a LDA single guy who is out with his friends this weekend and doesn't even have time to text me, and new AP who is M and gone on vacation so out of touch...means that this weekend there is no high from any illicit texts or IM'ing.


Anybody from the outside looking in would think that I have a wonderful life, and a wonderful H...and he is wonderful. I mean he thinks the world of me...but I am feeling SO smothered! He has never been a social kind of guy and doesn't have any close friends. Through the years my friends have drifted away...and now I don't have any close girlfriends left that I go out with or can talk to. And I miss that...and I need that...but he doesn't and he doesn't see that I do.

He wants to do everything with me...and I mean everything! Sometimes I just want to scream at him to leave me alone and give me some time to myself. I feel horrible because there are so many women who are in marriages where the H has disconnected and doesn't give love and passion...and I am drowning in it.

How do I tell him that I cannot be the center of his universe? Or that I can be the center but that there needs to be other things in his universe too? I find myself just wanting to scream sometimes. I go outside to sit and smoke and have some "me" time...and he follows me out there...just to be with me.


When I need to run and get something he always wants to be with me...I am at work all day...come home...have the kids by myself until he gets home...then I have all of them wanting a piece of me...I just need some time to be alone too...


OK...I totally hijacked your post...I'm sorry!!! That is kind of therapeutic to have got all of that out though...hmmm...I think I will have to keep reading back through this and figure out some more stuff!


Anyway...just wanted to say that I understand where you're coming from...in feeling lonely that is...hope you have a good Holiday weekend and stay busy!!!


LouLou
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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sat, 07-03-2010 - 11:55pm

No, Loulou, hijack away!

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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 07-04-2010 - 12:28am

Hi guys


Im here with you. Jane I agree with you- I HATE thinking of him with his partner. He says she's a good cook which made me feel ill.


Now what will we do about you feeling lonely. You know that deep down noone can

You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 06-01-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 07-04-2010 - 6:21am

Hi Jane,


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Registered: 01-02-2008
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 07-04-2010 - 7:58am

I fully understand the Lonely part of every day.

TanZa2920
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Registered: 07-12-2004
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 07-04-2010 - 11:48am

Hi Jane, Yes Lonely is a good word for this weekend for me.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 2:45am
Aww!
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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 5:27am

You are welcome Miss Jane


I am smart, but caught up battling my own addiction to my drug of choice- AP.


We'll get there mate xxx


You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 3:02am

If by "getting there" you mean really truly getting strong enough to get rid of these asses, I am SOOOO looking forward to the day!

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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 4:07am

Wow you are so me!


I am exactly the same- each hurt actually hurts less. I thought how I felt about him was the real thing and would never change. But over time I can see him as the very selfish creature he is deep down. He likes things his way, gets bvored easily and has some wierd ideas. But like you, these little insights plus the hurt

You are what you consistently do

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