I'm really sorry that XAP has done what he has done to you. Yes sometimes we let our feelings get in the way of things we want to say. But now is the time to let XAP know that you no longer want any contact from him or you will let your DH know for sure. A simple text could be sent to notify XAP of this decision. As for letting DH know? I'm not there nor do I know how he reacted to you letting him know about the A. You need to ask yourself some questions...will this affect your marriage now? and Can you deal with the guilt of knowing you talked to him and entertained the idea of calling/texting back and forth? If you can live with yourself (which is okay if you can) then I wouldn't let DH know about this. Just if it happens again you can say XAP tried calling but I didn't answer. I just don't want to see you mess up your marriage if you let DH know that you did talk to him. Especially since the talking was innocent on your part. IF you can live with it let it rest. Hope this helps some. If not I'm sorry. (((HUGS))) to ya girl!
All I can say to you is STOP yourself, get into T right away. Breathe in and out slowly.
Leave this loser alone. You see what you are getting yourself into. You are like a gerbil on a ferris wheel.
I guess along the way he changed for the worse and forgot to mention it to you.
Your right...I am like a gerbil caught on a wheel.
The big question is...should I tell my DH?
I dont know if I have the capability to do this on my own.
Hi Shame~
I'm really sorry that XAP has done what he has done to you. Yes sometimes we let our feelings get in the way of things we want to say. But now is the time to let XAP know that you no longer want any contact from him or you will let your DH know for sure. A simple text could be sent to notify XAP of this decision.
As for letting DH know? I'm not there nor do I know how he reacted to you letting him know about the A. You need to ask yourself some questions...will this affect your marriage now? and Can you deal with the guilt of knowing you talked to him and entertained the idea of calling/texting back and forth? If you can live with yourself (which is okay if you can) then I wouldn't let DH know about this. Just if it happens again you can say XAP tried calling but I didn't answer. I just don't want to see you mess up your marriage if you let DH know that you did talk to him. Especially since the talking was innocent on your part.
IF you can live with it let it rest. Hope this helps some. If not I'm sorry.
(((HUGS))) to ya girl!