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Long Term Affairs
| Sun, 03-28-2004 - 9:30am |
I've read posts from two or three members who have been in their affairs for years. I have a few questions...
Did you ever imagine that you would be in this forever?
Do you regret that you've stayed in the affair? (I think I can guess this answer...)
How did you settle in to the idea that it would be an affair, and decide to continue _as_ an affair?
Do things become more open? Or do you still have to hide everything?
Do you still hope for more?
Sorry if I've asked too many questions. I've posted how I feel about continuing in my affair for years, but I have to confess that we're so close and he's so important to me, that I could almost imagine just that. The thought terrifies me...
Thanks for any and all answers.
Cazrida

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We of course know each other better than anyone. We never run out of things to talk about. Everything we do together is fun. Shopping, working, everything.
Neither one of us will divorce our spouse, she's been married 43 years, me, 34.
We of course wish we could be together all the time, that we could tell more people, go out with more friends together....you know, be normal.
Her kids, youngest is 34, and her husband all know about us and approve. No one on my side knows a thing and must be kept in the dark. We are very careful to keep things hidden and under control.
If you think it's difficult to have and affair now, what until you're older, much older, it is even harder.
Hi Califguy,
Well, I was cruising along, starting to feel like I might be able to handle the next twenty years when I got to your last sentence. Talk about throwing me for a loop!
How is it going to be harder when I get older? (I'm 43, now. My oldest is 20.) Is there something I need to know? Are you trying to hint that I would be smarter to back it off?
::pulling out my running shoes, yet again::
(I'd laugh, but I'm taking your comment seriously, too.)
Cazrida
Nah. I thought I was going to be done with it soon. Didn't think it would last.
Do you regret that you've stayed in the affair? (I think I can guess this answer...)
Nope
How did you settle in to the idea that it would be an affair, and decide to continue _as_ an affair?
Still not settled well... I still hope to be with the OM someday. Gotta have faith.
Do things become more open? Or do you still have to hide everything?
AHHH Open R's, I love them. HEHEHEH. No nothing is open with us. Still sneaking around.
Do you still hope for more?
Yeah, baby!
Never even expected it to happen in the first place - it was only a fantasy.
Do you regret that you've stayed in the affair? (I think I can guess this answer...)
No regrets at all!!
How did you settle in to the idea that it would be an affair, and decide to continue _as_ an affair?
Fate stepped in - something there very powerful between us
Do things become more open? Or do you still have to hide everything?
Our relationship is very open - he knows more about me than anyone else in the world.
Do you still hope for more?
Oh yeah - we're working on it - all good things take time and work
Thanks!
In my A, there were times that I wanted to stray, and even voiced those to my MM, but eventually ended up staying in the A. The reasons for wanting to stray were things like being away from him during the holidays (those were hell), not being able to just pick up the phone and call him when I wanted(especially when I was having a bad day), and an issue like wanting to spend more time with him than he could give. My A, like I have told you has been going on for almost 4 years, and in that time, my relationship has changed, how could it not.
As wonderful, and loving as having an A can be,there are a lot of times that it is heart breaking as well, but then no relationship I guess is ever easy.
JayC1212
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