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| Tue, 02-24-2004 - 9:58pm |
I'll post the reader's digest version of my situation, then get straight to the problem. I have been in a relationship with my soulmate from April of last year. We are incredible together, in every way. In September, I filed for divorce from my husband and moved out. In January my lover filed for divorce. Two weeks later he moved out after a fight with the wife. He spent a week at her brother's house (she's turned Morman so her family has all turned their backs on her and are supporting his divorce from her, of course no one knows about me) and then he spent a week with me. Last Friday he went over and had dinner with her and the three kids. She told him at that time he could move back in. She refuses to get a job and his salary can't support their house and kids and him a second home (i.e. apt). So until the divorce is final, probably June - August, he will live upstairs and she will live downstairs. I am confident they don't have sex anymore, etc. and I really believe he has had to move back because of the money situation. Here is what i need help with. He won't push her to get a job and won't push the situation along so that he and I can be together sooner. He wants me to wait patiently for his divorce to be final. He says that a handful of months is worth a lifetime of happiness. We see each other about 3 times a week right now, sneaking time in when we can. I guess I am angry and frustrated because I feel like he should be doing more to get away from her. He swears he loves me and that I am his destiny (his words) but I don't feel like his actions reflect those words. When I tell him this he says I am being selfish and impatient. Anyone got any suggestions? I know I have left out lots of details so feel free to ask way.

My MM's W asked him for a divorce in Jan. They have told the kids and everyone knows. They have sold the house and both have bought land and plan to build. Until the house is sold they are living in the same house and even sleeping in the same bed. They will be moving to different places once the house is sold.
So as long as you feel like he is going to leave and there is a timeframe I would be fine with it.