Looking for old friends

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Registered: 09-28-2002
Looking for old friends
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Sat, 11-08-2003 - 9:37pm
I haven't been on this site in, oh, probably over a year now. I've been spending a lot of time recently thinking about how may affair began so long ago and was just wondering if any of the old group from ivillage are still around. If anyone recognizes my sign-in and would like to say hello, I'd love to hear how you're doing.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Sun, 11-09-2003 - 5:32pm

Hi Cedar and welcome back,


I've been around here for well over a year now... somewhat 18 months or more, but I've lost track.

Sweet
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 2:10pm
Hi Cedar.... I remember your screen name, but not really your situation..... and it was prob about a year ago that I started posting... I have not been here much since Spring or early Summer

You were probably here when there was "morning coffee hour" and such! There seems to be phases of groups that find "friends" and go off to smaller support groups, then new groups start, etc.

I have not seen many of the girls you probably knew from that time..

So, are you still in an EMA, and are you sharing or needing support?

Forty

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 2:40pm
Hi Cedar, No sorry, I don't remember your sign in name. I've been hanging out for a little over a year. I come and go! Hi Forty, How the heck are you doing? NMR
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Registered: 09-28-2002
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 6:16pm
Thanks, Sweet. I do know what you mean about having a place to get support. When I was first starting my affair, I stumbled on iVillage accidently, but it was the best thing that ever happened. I don't know what I would have done in those first crazy months when I was riding the roller coaster and not sure whether to stay on or get off. When I left iVillage it was to start a smaller e-mail group with women from iVillage that became good friends, and we're still chatting to this day. But I was just curious about some of my other friends from the iVillage board who I lost touch with. Perhaps I'll post here now and then. I have to admit, it's been interesting to read some of the posts here. It brings back memories!
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Registered: 09-28-2002
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 7:04pm
Hi, Forty. Yes, I'm still in my affair. 14 months and going strong. I'm single, he's married. He is the most wonderful man, and I'm crazy in love with the guy. We have a great relationship that started with an over two-year friendship that grew to something else. We have our ups and downs, especially in the beginning, but for the most part we're pretty solid. I don't know how long this will go, but I've learned to take things day by day and see what happens.

I've been enjoying reading some of the posts and recognize some of the same issues I went through when first starting out on this road. In the beginning, I don't know what I would have done without this board. A few of the women I became close to in the beginning and I started our own little chat group and we still are chatting to this day. They've been wonderful, but I thought I'd pop in again and see if anyone is still around. I hope you're happy and doing well.

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Registered: 07-13-2003
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 8:29pm
Hey Cedar - I remember your name. I was Taxi - do you remember me?

Yes I was here too when we did the Coffee mornings and cocktail hours.

I went off too - to another private chat. There are about a dozen of us there that used to post here. We remain close and several of us have met. It is a wonderful group, and we are all amazed and so grateful that we found each other here.

Several of us are taking a little mini vacation later this month. Some of whom have already met in person, some of us meeting in person for the first time.

We have moved beyond being a support group, into true friendship that encompasses more than our EMAs. We are very fortunate.

Glad to hear from you! Hope you are doing well.

Nitro (taxi)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-11-2003 - 1:17am
Hi Cedar!

It's always great to "see" someone from my early stages - I've been on the board over a year, though in some respects it seems a lifetime. I'm rarely here now though.

Truthfully? Some days are good, some hours are not. Seperated, soon to be D'ed, and glad in more ways than a dozen for it (and MM knew before our A). I'm trying to keep a positive attitude (of life in general), my perspective (in relationship with MM), and live for the moment (in most things).

MM is wonderful, and our relationship is great. Simply put, I love him and am in love with him. No matter our relationship tomorrow or next year, I'll always love him, and a part of me will always be in love with him. Yeah, sometimes it's painful, but then I wouldn't really be living Life if I weren't experiencing as many different feelings as I do.

And how are YOU? I hope you are happy!

Meow

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Registered: 09-28-2002
Tue, 11-11-2003 - 12:29pm
Hi, Nitro (aka Taxi)! Yes, I remember your sign-in, but not your situation. I'm glad you've found a group of friends, as well. Mine have been a God-send. Some of us have met, and we keep joking about taking a vacation together, but haven't quite got it together yet. We're from ALL OVER the country. We talk on the phone to each other and e-mail chat when we see someone is on line. It really has been wonderful having these wonderful new friends that, really, I can talk to about anything. I mean, after you've told someone about a crazy affair, what else is there to hide?!?

How are things with you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2002
Tue, 11-11-2003 - 12:37pm
Goodness, what a blast from the past! So good to hear from you. And glad to hear that your MM is keeping you happy, even if there are other things not so good in your life right now. I guess I know the feeling. My life is soooo hectic and busy right now I wonder if I'm going crazy, and then I see my MM and everything is right with the world. On the days that I see him, I can't help but grin all day long. He's a wonderful man, and like you, no matter what happens I will always love him. It's sometimes difficult -- he has tremendous work and family obligations that he struggles with, and as a single woman it's hard not to question myself about my future sometimes -- but overall every minute I spend with him is precious to me, and well worth whatever angst I may feel along the way. I'm sure you feel the same.

Great to hear from you. This is the first I've posted here in forever, but perhaps I'll pop in again from time to time and we can catch up! Take care.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 11-11-2003 - 1:43pm
My God! It must be old home week or something!! Cedar - I remember your sign on - Forty, Meow, Taxi, Nomo - it's too funny that we all kind of were checking out the site at the same time. I've lost touch with several of you, sadly. Had a lot of turmoil this summer with my mom being ill and then passing away about three months ago. So, I wasn't able to spend a lot of time checking out the site, but knew I was missing all of you. Just a refresher - still in EMA I started in February of this year (my former EMA with coworker ended - Forty - he and his W still work there together - ha ha!) and things are going very well. I am single, and living in the big cities - started a new job about four weeks ago... I, too, remember the beginnings and the rush of feelings that go along, so I can commiserate with some of these people who are just starting out and questioning all their feelings. It seems weird to not feel that way any more - I suppose, like everything it ebbs and flows.... I'm so glad all of you came back on line to catch up! Those of you going on the mini vacation - sounds like fun!! Enjoy yourselves and report back in! I'd love to hear how it went!

Take care!!

Jill

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