Looking for old friends

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2002
Looking for old friends
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Sat, 11-08-2003 - 9:37pm
I haven't been on this site in, oh, probably over a year now. I've been spending a lot of time recently thinking about how may affair began so long ago and was just wondering if any of the old group from ivillage are still around. If anyone recognizes my sign-in and would like to say hello, I'd love to hear how you're doing.

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Registered: 09-28-2002
Tue, 11-11-2003 - 6:40pm
I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I'm sure it must have been difficult for you.

Yes, it is strange that we're all back at the same time. I haven't been on this site in ages, but I just had a sudden urge to check out who's still around. Sounds like you're doing well and in an EMA that is making you happy. Too bad the other one didn't work out, but unfortunately that's the way things go sometimes. I can't help but be absolutely amazed that I'm still in my affair. Every once in a while I watch my MM sleeping in bed next to me after we've made love and I'm still shocked to know that he's there. But I wouldn't trade a moment of the past 14 months. They've been wonderful. Our relationship has always been pretty steady -- our ups and downs haven't been really up or really down -- but I can say now that we're past the honeymoon stage and have got into the warm and cozy side of things. I don't at all miss those crazy first few months when everything was so uncertain and the guilt and worry were a constant.

All I know is that the man can still make my heart flutter when he calls me unexpectedly and I hear his sexy voice on the other end of the phone. Hope things are the same for you!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 12:52pm
wow, you sound sooo happy in your post!! that's sooo cool.

congratulations for being one of the happy ones!!

gurl

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Registered: 09-28-2002
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 2:10pm
Yes, I am extremely happy. I think the trick is 1) to find a guy worthy of being happy over, and 2) not to have too many expectations. If you take it one day at a time instead of trying to figure out what's going to happen a month from now, if you can value each moment spent together and not worry over the moments you're apart, and if you have built your relationship on friendship and not sex, then happiness just happens.

Hope you find the same!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 2:14pm
again, wow! cedarbend, you have a great attitude and positive outlook that are extremely compatible with my mindset, especially the "worrying".

and thanks for the good wishes but i'm not looking to end up with my MM. i'm just enjoying the here and now with him and it's all good!!

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 11:10pm
Hi Cedar, I remember you. I used to get you and Timber mixed up, lol! The wood people! I have been ending my ema for months now...... very painfully, very drawn out..... hopefully today was the last time I talk to him (even though I've said that a million times!).... he still swears he loves me, but his actions say otherwise... I'm glad things are going well for you.... really and truly.....

Who else do you talk to? Anyone I know?

Love,

Carmen

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 9:13am
WOW...LOL..I haven't seen so many of you in one room in forever! WB Cedar!!
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 9:21am
Welcome back Cedar! Im glad to hear that youve found you way back to our lil comfort zone!

cl-liberalgirl

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sun, 11-16-2003 - 1:41pm
It's so good to hear from you all! I just started browsing here last week and glad to find this thread. I am so glad to hear everyone's hanging in there. I found ivillage about a year ago, aka oktobe2nd. Still in same EMA and have to agree that I don't miss those early months of uncertainty, how to handle all these emotions, MMs guilt. We've resigned ourselves to being FWOB most of the time, and we've done the "one more time" thing more than I can count. We love eachother deeply as friends, and MM has said "this is a forever thing" for him. No expectations, we're both married, not going anywhere and enjoying it for what it is today. Good to hear from you all!!!!

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