Loosing Cheating Husband
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Loosing Cheating Husband
| Tue, 09-23-2003 - 5:52am |
Advice Please!
Just found out 11 days ago that my husband of 6 years has been cheating on me for 7 months. I am truly in love with him and devestated about the whole thing. His aunt is the one who told me about them. When I confronted him he still denied it. I then found her number on his cell phone bill and called her. It was true. She has two boys and lives 200 miles away. My husband travels daily to work and has been staying so I thought with his uncle or in a hotel. Now all the puzzle peices are finally fitting together. I have had an idea that there has been something going on, but every time I asked him of course he denied it. Saying, Ya, right. That's you just thinking that. So now that I know, everything comes out about how he has been unhappy for four years, hasn't loved me for two years, and that he is not sexually attracted to me anymore, and wants a divorce. I want to save my marriage, but how can I save it when he doesn't even want to try. I mean try nothing. No counceling, no anything. He sais he loves her and does not want me. He said he has already tried to save the marriage and that hes done trying.
--Posted by carriebee, WA
05:19AM EST 09/23/03
Just found out 11 days ago that my husband of 6 years has been cheating on me for 7 months. I am truly in love with him and devestated about the whole thing. His aunt is the one who told me about them. When I confronted him he still denied it. I then found her number on his cell phone bill and called her. It was true. She has two boys and lives 200 miles away. My husband travels daily to work and has been staying so I thought with his uncle or in a hotel. Now all the puzzle peices are finally fitting together. I have had an idea that there has been something going on, but every time I asked him of course he denied it. Saying, Ya, right. That's you just thinking that. So now that I know, everything comes out about how he has been unhappy for four years, hasn't loved me for two years, and that he is not sexually attracted to me anymore, and wants a divorce. I want to save my marriage, but how can I save it when he doesn't even want to try. I mean try nothing. No counceling, no anything. He sais he loves her and does not want me. He said he has already tried to save the marriage and that hes done trying.
--Posted by carriebee, WA
05:19AM EST 09/23/03

You probably need to post at the Betrayed Spouse board here at iV rather than this one. This board is geared more towards people who are in affairs and dealing with the situations around that.
It sounds like your H has already left, so I'm not sure there's anything left for you to save. And if it's been like that for four years, are you sure you want to save it? Are you in love with him, or just the image of him and the life you had? Because I would think it would be hard to truly maintain a happy M if for four years he's decided this isn't what he wants, and you've suspected him of cheating anyway.
I hope you find the support you desire. Check out the BS board - I'm sure they will offer all kinds of advice and ideas.
Good luck,
lily