Loosing my job, AP and my marriage

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Registered: 01-08-2011
Loosing my job, AP and my marriage
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Fri, 03-30-2012 - 11:41am

Things have taken place this year that have been hard to deal with and loosing the baby was the worst.

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Fri, 03-30-2012 - 11:54am
Wow! You've been dealt a handful of bad cards. Just take things one day at a time. Do something positive and nice for yourself each day, keep your head up, and move forward. Hugs.
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Fri, 03-30-2012 - 5:53pm

kittery (((hugs)))

I know exactly how you feel (except for the baby part, which didn't happen to me). However, I totally relate to the rest of what you're saying.

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Registered: 07-31-2011
Fri, 03-30-2012 - 8:30pm
Oh Kittery, you know i've followed your story. Hope things get better for you soon and you have a turning point.
Small steps hey, that's where I am now. Happy vacation x
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Registered: 01-08-2011
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 8:48pm

Benska, I realized that whatever is happening in my life right now is only a stage and nothing more.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 9:51pm
I love your optimism, kittery !

If your marriage wasn't working, then you're not losing it, you're gaining a new life and a new you. A separation is a change and it's hard, but you need to go through this to be better. I know that you know that.

The thing about fights and I guess especially in the kind of a R we're in, is that there's no committment and we can't know if the other person will think that it's worth fighting for this R or not. So I guess when you have one, it's more scary then in any other R. We pretty much broke up twice with my AP by email during his trip and I was devastated, because I had no way to contact him or know if he'll read my replies, only to find an email from him a few hours later saying that he loves me and doesn't want to break up.

I'm also trying to find a place where I'm going to feel good knowing that I love a man I can't spend all my time with. And knowing that he feels the same. I guess that I'm getting there as I felt really good this weekend. He's giving me enough attention for a busy man as he is and I continue living my life and making it as fullfilling as I can.

Good luck !