Losing all self-respect...
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Losing all self-respect...
| Tue, 01-27-2009 - 10:30pm |
Okay, so here I go again on this merry-go-round of emotions.
| Tue, 01-27-2009 - 10:30pm |
Okay, so here I go again on this merry-go-round of emotions.
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Hi miss,
If we truly love someone and they love us back as well, would we let the other lose self respect?
Come on G2, cut the girl some slack, she is hurting.
I remember onetime when I was a little girl, and my mom said not to play in the street. Of course I did it anyway. I knew it was wrong, but the street had a certain allure to it. It was like it was tempting me to come and play. So, I took the chance, and went into the street. I saw my mom looking outside, so tried to hurry up and get out of the street, and I fell, and had broken my arm in three places.
Well, needless to say I was screaming in pain laying in the street. Do you know what my mother did when she realized that I had been in the street despite the fact that she implicitly told me not to go? She scooped up her broken child, and kissed me on the forehead, and said "Don't worry Honey, it WILL be alright."
She no longer cared if what I did was right or wrong, all that she cared about was the fact that I was hurt, and I needed her care.
Well, G2 this is the same challenge that I give to you. Forget how she got here or why she came here, because here is where she is right now, and she needs our care. I say that we extend our hands in friendship, and love to help her get herself together. Let us be the last to judge, and the first to render aid.
Justice
I too enjoy reading your posts. You have a way of getting your point across and offer support at the same time.
OP, please don't be so hard on yourself. We are all on this board for the same reason, affairs. All of us could say the same things about ourselves. I get what your saying, just realize that you are not alone.
Thank you for your words of support and encouragement.
I don't know if you had a chance to read G2's post before it was deleted, but I hope you did.
I know it was harsh - but her message was right on point - in my opinion.
There are some wonderful women on here who take the softer approach - and then equally wonderful women who just aren't as delicate - I'm probably closer to the non-delicate side with G2.
You pretty much repeated what she said - that you're going to need to hit rock bottom before you work your way out of this mess.
thank you for that post, Justice
we are not therapists - but we are not clairvoyants either. it is hard to give advice when all you can see are the black and white words of one person in the relationship. so maybe sometimes they don't need our advice as much as they need our concern.
Miss, i wish you good luck in finding a therapist. a good therapist. be assured, he or she will not judge you or be harsh with you - but he/she will try to understand what motivates you to make the choices you do. your awareness that the choice is bad is step 1. understanding how you got there is step 2. changing it is step 3 and sticking to it is step 4.
LOL someone else prolly has the 12 step approach down but 4 steps is enough for me.
Mrs.
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