Losing Hope

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Registered: 03-30-2006
Losing Hope
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Sat, 09-19-2009 - 7:39pm

Hi there.

~vanillabeanie
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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: vanillabeanie
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 10:34pm

Hi vanilla,


I'm so sorry you are hurting right now. You AP is really going through it and I'm sorry for him to. Try to hang in there. It will work out somehow. You just have to decide whether you love him enough to wait and continue to be there for him in this process. I know it's so hard to make a decision like this when you love someone. On one hand you want to wait because you care so much but then on the other hand it's so painful you arent sure if you can deal with the situation for much longer.


At least you ap seems to be taking steps to be with you. Mine hasnt done that yet and it's so hard to deal with sometimes I think I'm going wacko. Be strong and write when you need to.


Hugs :)

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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: vanillabeanie
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 12:43pm

I am sorry you are going thru all this stuff.It can be very tiring and emotionally draining.Are you S or M?
I guess with so much stress ( your AP's health,grama passing away etc),it is very unlikely that his troubled M will get better.I wouldnt worry on that front.
Be a support to him in this tough time and i wish your MM is able to finally do what he needs to.I do understand about small kids.My MM has 2 little kids which he adores and his W is using them to keep him.Sadly,she doesnt realize that kids dont make a M better but i guess she is doing what best she can.

Keep courage and take care of you.If you are strong enough , you will be able to help your AP thru the tough times.
Hope this helps((( hugs )))

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Registered: 03-30-2006
In reply to: vanillabeanie
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 1:16pm

Hi caribu,


Thank you so very much for your post.

~vanillabeanie
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Registered: 03-30-2006
In reply to: vanillabeanie
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 1:21pm

Hi lovingdoll,


Thanks so much for your response.

~vanillabeanie
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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: vanillabeanie
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 5:16pm
Thank you vanilla. I will be emailing you.