from love to hate

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Registered: 04-27-2008
from love to hate
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 7:02pm

ExAP and I ended things on Oct 14th.

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Registered: 04-03-2007
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 8:27pm

Oh his.....I am so sorry for this pain you are experiencing now. I can only imagine how you are eeling right now. I can only guess how hurt you are.


I'm sorry, I don't remember your story real well.....was he also married or single? Had you ever honestly considered leaving your marriage? If so why hadn't it happened yet? Do you see yourself ever having had a chance to be with AP long term in a a "real" R?


I know that it must be very hard to accept but if he is single, do you think he deserves to be with someone who can provide him with a real relationship? Some one who is not married and tied to another man?


It's just a thought, hon. You are doing the right thing though by keeping your head high and being strong. Maybe this will offer you the opportunity to either work on your marriage or end it. Whatever the case, something good has to come of this, I know it's just hard to see right now.


BIG FAT BEAR HUGS!!!!!

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Registered: 10-25-2008
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 9:35pm

Omgosh...I am so very sorry for your pain. My heart hurts for you. What a jerk. I hate affairs and wish I had NEVER become involved! I wish there was something to say, but there is nothing.

Take care....

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Registered: 04-27-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 5:26pm

My heart does hurt, but I am angry, which is the only way I can cope with it.


I will be fine in time, just taking it one day at a time.


It's true that once the hurt outweighs the good of an A, it's time to end it.


Hurting me the way he did was the catalyst I needed, to totally end it on my part, to maintain NC, and to get on with my life without him.


I tell myself everyday that I hate him, it's the only way I can deal with the love I still feel, the tremendous hurt inside, and someday I will be able to look at him and feel nothing.


After all there is a fine line between love and hate.


Someday I will look back on this time as a time of personal growth, despite the pain, a time where my will power and strength were pushed to the limit and beyond, a time where I can learn to love myself again, and realizing that I don't need a man to make me happy, I don't need a man to fulfill me, or one to make me feel beautiful.

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 6:20pm

>>>"I don't need a man to make me happy, I don't need a man to fulfill me, or one to make me feel beautiful.

I can be all those things on my own. "<<<

Good for you Greeneyes! You don't need a jerk who has the gall to rob salt on your wound the way he did. Who does he think he is?!! What an ass!!!

The best revenged is to let him see you happy and living well. Take good care of yourself, and yes! Give 'em a good kick in the teeth if he ever come crawling back.

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Registered: 10-01-2008
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 2:01am

I feel for you too.

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