In love with my married friend

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Registered: 05-14-2009
In love with my married friend
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Thu, 05-14-2009 - 10:42am

First off, Im not sure what I am looking for by posting this...a little prespective perhaps.


I am totally in love with my married friend. We have known each other since we were just out of high school, about 14 years now. Back at that time he wanted to date me and I ended up dating his roomate. Prior to dating the roomate, we had a little "fling" so there is some history there. It was not because

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 05-14-2009 - 3:37pm

Hi gal...welcome.

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Fri, 05-15-2009 - 9:55am

No I am not married. He has a daughter but not with W.


I understand what your saying about thinking you should feel guilter. I just dont. I would never, ever find myself in this situation with anyone but him. He has said the same thing.


I have noticed that I have to be very careful not to get upset when things dont go the way I expect. He is curently in school as well as working, so he is very very busy. Sometimes its hard when, as you said, I have to take a backseat, but i am dealing with it.


Im really not sure what the future will hold. But I simply cannot seem to disengae myself from him this time around. Only time will tell.

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 3:19pm
I think you need to just accept the fact that you're in an affair, and most likely it will not go beyond that.