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Love vs. Sex
| Wed, 09-17-2003 - 10:26am |
I've been thinking about something this week and I wanted to bounce it off of you all. MM and I haven't had IC yet, just a few kisses. When we get physical, he gets scared and backs off for a while. But he has no problem saying he loves me. (Points to eye, then heart, then me...doesn't actually say the words.) I can't even insinuate it back to him because I'm trying not to admit to myself I'm in love with him. Yet kissing him didn't make me feel guilty... Telling him I love him would. Is that normal? Is it harder for women to say those words in this situation, yet not as hard to get physical? Or is it just me...

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jmho, but i think you're both scared to get in too deep with this A so you're holding back physically and emotionally. once you make the leap to IC, the deeper connection will take ahold of the R and it will become a more serious situation. be careful. if that's what you want from this R, then go for it. if not, if it's just fun and games, flirting and kissing a little, keep it at that level.
take care,
gurl
if and when he overcomes his guilt attacks and you agree to be intimate with him, everything changes. of course, he could pull back after you've been intimate, but it won't last too long. he'll want more of you. but your MM seems very "on the fence" about this R, as do you. if neither one of you is sure you want to proceed, put a little distance (no kissing, flirting) for a week or so and see if either or both of you is still interested in proceeding any further.
the R will snowball once you take it to the next level. count on it!
gurl
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