LOVE vs STATUS

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Registered: 07-28-2009
LOVE vs STATUS
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 11:30am

I have been in and out of many relatioships.... and i finally meet the sweetest man, the man of my dreams... and

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: carbonara
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 11:42am

I met the man of my dreams, too, although he came in a different package than I expected. He loves me, adores me, cares very deeply for me, takes care of me, treats me like a queen, loves my kids, lives and breathes for me. He's perfect, except... well I'm still married.... for now.


I tell you this to show you that there are men very well capable of treating women very well. There is more than just this one man that you met, who is perfect in nearly every way, except that pesky "cheated on his wife" kind of way. Other than that....


Honestly, my advice is to leave him. If you love him, let him go. You know he won't leave his wife, it's not the Asian way. Don't settle for second best for life, life is too short. Give him a sweet, loving kiss, remind him that you love him and always will, but his committment is at home with his family, with his wife and parents and family. Thank him for showing you true love, for showing you that not every man on this planet is a pig, that there are good men out there. Then, cease contact, let him go. Mourn the loss, it will feel like a death, let him go. When you are ready, use him as your gold standard to find a man who treats you like a princess. Accept nothing short of terrific adoration. You know what kind of men are out there, just say no to those who are too bland to make your heart sing.


Life is short, love long.