Loving a married man

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Registered: 03-06-2004
Loving a married man
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Sat, 03-06-2004 - 7:20pm
I am in a relationship with a married man. I am divorced and have a career. I met him when I was going through a long and emotionally draining divorce. He was having problems in his marriage and we both consoled each other. We broke it off ..... I told him to work on his marriage and I needed to move on. I started dating a man and "my married" man came running back to me saying he loved me and wanted to be with me. He told his wife that he was in love with me and wanted to be with me. She got EVERYONE involved....pastor, their children, her brothers and sisters, etc..... She told her husband that she would never let him go. (We live in a no fault divorce state.) His children are grown and he owns his own business. His wife works and could be self supporting. To make a long story short he went back to her. He told me that he still loves me, but that can't leave her.... she would wreck the business and he has partners. I love him, but know that I need to move on. It is so hard. I am so confused. I know the longer I see him the harder it is to "walk away."
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Registered: 10-15-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 9:52am
Sweetheart, why are you still seeing this man? He told his wife that he loved you, and wanted out of the mairriage, and then renegged and decided to stay in the marriage. Either he's confused or was using you as an escape route. He's not doing this for his partners or the business. Legal sanctions could be put in place so she couldn't damage the business in anyway - especially if he's only a partner and not a sole owner. Yes, she'd be entitled to half his share of the business. That's to be expected. Are you not worth even that much to him?

I'm sorry, but I think you need foeget him and move on with your life.

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:08pm

hi sweet and welcome to the board!

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