lurker in need..

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2003
lurker in need..
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Thu, 11-27-2003 - 11:51am
Hi everyone...

I'm posting because i'm confused. I have so many feelings and i wish i could gush to my MM but it's impossible. We only communicate during work... via email and occasional cell phone calls and it's all very light hearted and sometimes a little naughty. It's very fun but i would love to get inside him, know him, not just his sexual fantasies... I'm alittle afraid of being shut down.

It's very early...only a month into this EMA... should i just play it one day at a time?

are any of you involved in just sex relationships... and do you find that to be enough? I'm not really prepared only for that... but i know the limitations of being in an EMA...

does anyone have any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2003
Fri, 11-28-2003 - 9:00am
I know there are a few here who are in it just for the sex, but as time passes it seems that feeling get involved. I know I could not be in this ema just for the sex, I need the whole package. But I've know my MM, since we were kids, and the attraction was always there. Simply, I love him, I've always loved him, I love who I am with him. I dont think I could have just started this up with NO feelings. But thats just me. Others here have different reasons for there A.

Sounds to me like you are intrested in more than just the sex.

Good luck,

dayz
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 11-28-2003 - 9:48am
Hi Sad, I think I am in the type of relationship you are asking about. I met my MM specifically because sex was lacking in my M. As it was in his. And there was a definite spark between us when we met. We are very compatible as far as the physical relationship goes. And it started out very friendly, nice comments such as lovers would say to each other. I think we are very fond of each other. We've been seeing each other just over 2 years now. From time to time, I might ask him if its only about the sex, he could just find that with anyone if he wasn't seeing me anymore. He says he wouldn't look for anyone else if he didn't have me, and that he wouldn't have continued with me for so long if he didn't "like" me. So that's the way we leave it. I would never expect anything more, neither of us are planning on leaving our M's. At least not for now. And he has said he would like this to go on a long time, I think I would like that too. Things would have to change drastically for me at home to change my feelings.

And if I really wanted more, I wouldn't be in this kind of relationship. I told him a while ago, I had been thinking of leaving my husband and that if I did, I would be dating people. That gave him something to think about.

Anyways, I would say, just try to stay relaxed and enjoy things. Sometimes I get a little moody and have to remind myself, this is a dessert for me, not the main course. Same thing for him.

xxxx