Lurker Opening Up Here

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Lurker Opening Up Here
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 9:07am

Okay, so I've been reading all of your posts and many of you women have things in common with my situation, which is a relief!!


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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 6:45pm

Hi Vanessa,

Welcome to the board. So, I guess I will just be blunt, lol. I don't think you should have gotten married at this point in your life - marriage is a lot of work and it doesn't seem like you are willing to invest in your own.

If I were you I would reflect on whether or not you want to be married, without bringing an AP into the picture to muddle things up. Sort that out first for you and your husband's sake. If your H is so great, sex is awesome, H treats you like a queen, why are you running after trouble? Looks like you're a bit of a thrill-seeker, vanessa... take off the rose-colored glasses and see the situation for what it really is. I wish you the best of luck in your reflections.

trixie



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Registered: 08-19-2008
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 10:38pm

So, is your H just a security blanket for when you're old and no one finds you attractive anymore? Do you think that's the proper way to treat your H whose only fault is loving you too much? I hope you'll give him the respect he deserves by either letting him go so he can find someone who will truly be there just for him, or you be the "one-man-woman" he thinks he married.

I'm with the other poster. You're clearly not ready to be M and unless your H gave you his blessings to go run around on him, then what you're doing is not kosher. If you can carry it off and still be able to live with yourself, then there's nothing else we can say.

But, (JMHO) honesty is still the best policy. You sleep better at night and you'll still respect yourself in the morning.

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