Major Dilema!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2007
Major Dilema!
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Sat, 03-02-2013 - 8:09am

I've with my AP for seven years.  We are both M and We work together which makes things complicated.  Well about 6 months ago, I found out that he was or is still with this other girl who works in a different dept.  She told someone I work with the details of their relationship. Since then I ever been very distance from him.  I confronted him of course he denied it. I've cried a river over this...  What should I do?   Should I tell her what I heard and confront her to find out if its true. Should I just move on?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-01-2013
Sat, 03-02-2013 - 5:56pm

Is it possible that she is making the story up? Does you MM give you reason to believe this happened? I would not confront her, that sounds like a recipe for disaster :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 03-04-2013 - 1:07pm

Why not accept that he has another AP? Has he treated you differently in any way, whether there's another AP in his life or not?

I think either you let him know that, as long as he doesn't flaunt it, you are OK that he has another AP, even mention that you may want to look for another as well -just to gage his reaction if nothing else- and see how that goes.

Or, if this is a situation you can't handle, let him go.  He'll be fine since he already has another AP.

Going to the other person will only create more drama, and you will get more questions and unknowns and less answers for all your troubles.

Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:02pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:05pm

Sorry about all of the same posts.  Darn computer!

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2009
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 1:50pm

I thought you were just emphasizing :)

I noticed that after I click post, the text goes funny for a bit, then it posts. There is that 3-5 second pause I gotta wait, otherwise I double post too.

Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 11:57am

No, just really impatient.  lol  I have a click, click, click problem, and h hates it!  lol

 

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