Major Dilema!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2007
Major Dilema!
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Sat, 03-02-2013 - 8:09am

I've with my AP for seven years.  We are both M and We work together which makes things complicated.  Well about 6 months ago, I found out that he was or is still with this other girl who works in a different dept.  She told someone I work with the details of their relationship. Since then I ever been very distance from him.  I confronted him of course he denied it. I've cried a river over this...  What should I do?   Should I tell her what I heard and confront her to find out if its true. Should I just move on?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2004
Sat, 03-16-2013 - 1:07pm

Think of the possible stds. A sure thing to end a M if that is what you desire.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2007
Sat, 03-16-2013 - 8:09am

I really can't say anything to her about me and him because my AP & I work together and we are both M.  I probably would get fired from my job.  I just wanted to tell her, he is a player because I'm sure she thinks she is the love of his life like I did.  She has no problem making comments to people in an indirect way to say that they are together.  I did confront him and he denied it and got very defensive. I guess I would have to accept that he is with other APs and I am just one of many.  But can I deal with that is the question?  I should put it out there to him- obvious that he is with more than just me as a AP, and I guess that it's ok for me to do the same.  I have to see his reaction.  Not that I would be with another AP.  I guess that is the name of the game.  Is it ok with you guys that your AP is with other people and you accept it???  Sometimes I think this is too much for me and I'm out especially when I'm up at nite crying...

Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 11:57am

No, just really impatient.  lol  I have a click, click, click problem, and h hates it!  lol

 

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 1:50pm

I thought you were just emphasizing :)

I noticed that after I click post, the text goes funny for a bit, then it posts. There is that 3-5 second pause I gotta wait, otherwise I double post too.

Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:05pm

Sorry about all of the same posts.  Darn computer!

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:02pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:01pm

Hi Crazy-Girl ~

I've been in a similar situation.  Do not confront her!!!  I made that mistake and it did not end well.  If she doesn't know anything about you and him, then that is all the better.  Keep your dignity! 

 

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