Major Dilema!

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Registered: 11-16-2007
Major Dilema!
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Sat, 03-02-2013 - 8:09am

I've with my AP for seven years.  We are both M and We work together which makes things complicated.  Well about 6 months ago, I found out that he was or is still with this other girl who works in a different dept.  She told someone I work with the details of their relationship. Since then I ever been very distance from him.  I confronted him of course he denied it. I've cried a river over this...  What should I do?   Should I tell her what I heard and confront her to find out if its true. Should I just move on?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2007
Sat, 03-16-2013 - 8:09am

I really can't say anything to her about me and him because my AP & I work together and we are both M.  I probably would get fired from my job.  I just wanted to tell her, he is a player because I'm sure she thinks she is the love of his life like I did.  She has no problem making comments to people in an indirect way to say that they are together.  I did confront him and he denied it and got very defensive. I guess I would have to accept that he is with other APs and I am just one of many.  But can I deal with that is the question?  I should put it out there to him- obvious that he is with more than just me as a AP, and I guess that it's ok for me to do the same.  I have to see his reaction.  Not that I would be with another AP.  I guess that is the name of the game.  Is it ok with you guys that your AP is with other people and you accept it???  Sometimes I think this is too much for me and I'm out especially when I'm up at nite crying...

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2004
Sat, 03-16-2013 - 1:07pm

Think of the possible stds. A sure thing to end a M if that is what you desire.

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