Making him come to you.... (spinoff)

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Making him come to you.... (spinoff)
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Wed, 01-07-2004 - 11:24am
How do you survive while playing hard-to-get with OM? I read this in another thread, and it made SO much sense in terms of my A, and I'm sure with lots of others too!

I haven't seen OM since Saturday afternoon (but will see him at work in a few hours) and it has been all I can do to not call him to see how he is! I know this is what it's all about, but it's driving me crazy when one minute, we're making love and he says, "I could do this every morning" and then doesn't call for a week (but is still flirtatious at work)!! I'm sure he knows what it does to me.

How does everyone else survive?

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 01-07-2004 - 6:14pm
I agree, but my ideas are usually out the accepted norm that I don't post about this anymore. My mother must have forgotten to slap some sense into me about dating or something. LOL. I never really dated anybody except for DH and far as OM you can hardly call it "dating".... I am as green as they come in this aspect.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 01-07-2004 - 8:10pm
I am feeling down, have not heard from MM since before Xmas. I kind of expected to talk to him this week, but I'm not going to harrass him. I left a short email yesterday, that's it for me. If he wants me, he knows where to find me!!

As far as this acting like you don't need them, I've started this philosphy with my H who's a heavy drinker. I used to just sit at home and take the abuse when he started a fight or something. Now I just grab the car keys and leave for a few hours. When I get back, he's so much nicer to me. It seems like if you take the upper hand and don't just sit there and take the crap, they have more respect for you. So MM, here's news for you: If you want me, you'd better be REALLY NICE to me, or you won't be getting the VIP treatment anymore!!

Dusty

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Thu, 01-08-2004 - 9:54am
lol, just when i thought i was gonna have to sit on my hands or throw away my keyboard to keep from emailing, work forces me to go to his office today. YAYYYYYYY!
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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 01-19-2004 - 2:12pm
good for you..hang in there !

i did exactly what all u girls had taught me...

stay away..let him come to you.

And so I did..and you guys could not have been sooo right.

I had a gift on my desk, flirting looks alllll the time.

I even had a lunch date w/ someone...and he called me and

said...."I dont like it that u went out and looked that great,

and I dont like that ur not all over me....I dont like it!"

I said,,,,OH well !!!!!!!!!

Im luvin' it....

TOW

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Registered: 12-19-2003
Mon, 01-19-2004 - 2:53pm
This is what I would like to do, make him come to me....

But I soooo do not want to have him not, I would be heartbroken....

But, then again, when I was out and paying attention to his friends, so as to draw attention away from us, MM was waaaaaaay jealous, and I do not like that game....

I have never played games with MM, and never will....

But sometimes, I do think that I am too open with how much I love him, and that I am putting myself at a disadvanage doing so...

I do tend to find out from MM how much I actually mean to him, when I back off a bit....

Unfortunately, I really suck at NC because I become miserable....
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Registered: 01-16-2004
Wed, 01-21-2004 - 12:22pm
I have read all the posts on this discussion and am joining you Dusty! From now on I back off, no more flirting and no more getting downer and downer over his lack of communication. We'll see. Good Luck to you and thanks to everyone who added their thoughts and comments as it's really helped me a lot too.

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