The Man Is Non-Communicative!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2003
The Man Is Non-Communicative!
1
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 12:17am
Geez...here I thought he was coming over to spill his guts on how he feels..yada yada...but nope. I guess I'm being a little selfish though...He said he returned from his business trip to my letter and to find that the W is loosing feeling in her feet. Okay, so I felt really bad. What he doesn't want to say is that he doesn't ever have any plans to leave but he doesn't want to lose me either. We just couldn't talk, but we had the best (yeah, you know) S ever!!! Whoa...

He has no problems talking about the physical world and sensation etc, but soooo bad at dealing with emotions. When he talks, I get the impression I'm a side dish, but when we touch and look into each others eyes, I feel like nothing even needs to be said...

I kept saying, well since you can't communicate, then this is the grand-finale...and wow, what a finale it was! But when he left, we both said it wasn't the final one. He said he's trying to be more consistent with me and he is doing better at that. He's been calling more regularly, so that's good. I guess I'm just struggling with this whole thing hoping for some action on his part when I really need to just accept it for what it is.

So, I've decided to go back to dating and seeing him too. :) If he can have his cake and eat it to, then so should I!!

I'm both happy and sad....

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 10:30am
I am sorry its such a let down for you, happy. Some men can't seem to think of anything but themselves. Its like you spent a lot writing a lovely letter and somebody doesn't even get it. Not the same wavelength, I can see. Yeah,,,, go ahead and date. If you find somebody with better chemistry you can kiss your MM goodbye!